EXTRA JUICE: "It's been six week since he moved away and I've come to realise that I am madly in love with him..." #86 — Hold My Drink

[00:00–00:04] Hold my drink, Extrudeuse, with Charlene and Ellie.
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[00:47–00:50] I love pennies at winter time.
[00:50–00:52] Yeah, fluffy PJs.
[00:52–00:53] I need to get new ones.
[00:53–00:55] I'm so rocking last year's ones, I need new ones.
[00:55–00:57] Yeah, I actually haven't got any new ones either.
[00:57–00:59] I need a good few sets.
[00:59–01:00] I love all the, um,
[01:01–01:03] is it called, what's the cut?
[01:03–01:04] Not checkered.
[01:04–01:05] Hounds too?
[01:05–01:06] Oh, is that what it's got?
[01:06–01:07] No, no, no.
[01:07–01:09] Hounds too, it's like the diamondy color.
[01:09–01:09] Yeah.
[01:09–01:11] No, is it tarn?
[01:11–01:12] Oh, yeah, tarn.
[01:12–01:12] Yeah, yeah.
[01:12–01:13] You have a good tarn.
[01:13–01:14] Is that pajamas?
[01:14–01:14] I never had one.
[01:14–01:16] Oh, never.
[01:16–01:20] I think I got pennies tarned in bed sheets as well when you're, like,
[01:20–01:21] oh, yeah.
[01:21–01:22] Oh my god, full shabby.
[01:22–01:23] Oh, yeah.
[01:23–01:24] I'm waiting till my little kids,
[01:24–01:26] may not have a kid, we can wear them together.
[01:26–01:27] The match and we match.
[01:27–01:28] You're going to force that out together.
[01:28–01:29] Oh, yeah.
[01:29–01:29] Oh, yeah.
[01:29–01:31] I've been living.
[01:31–01:32] I've been living.
[01:32–01:34] See all the pictures coming up when you can just tell by the, like,
[01:34–01:37] man's face that he's like, I don't want to be doing it.
[01:37–01:38] Yeah, no, he never does.
[01:38–01:39] Forced in that.
[01:39–01:40] Well, forced.
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[01:50–01:53] This is our brown set, so we're going to answer even more to Lemurs
[01:53–01:55] and we try to give you some advice.
[01:56–02:00] On life problems, Salemurs, things you'd ask, you'd ask girls in the bathroom
[02:00–02:02] when you're chatting to them or at night, so whatever.
[02:02–02:05] So I can see we've been up day here, which I'm so glad about.
[02:07–02:10] Okay, so we get updates in as well of like if we've helped someone,
[02:11–02:16] someone with their dilemma, if we have not helped, if they took our advice, didn't,
[02:16–02:17] we like all updates.
[02:17–02:19] We don't discriminate on any updates.
[02:19–02:20] Whether you took our advice or not.
[02:20–02:21] So send them in if you have any.
[02:21–02:23] Just put updates in this up deadline in the email.
[02:23–02:26] So they're all sent in to our email address,
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[02:27–02:28] Load now dot com.
[02:28–02:29] But here's your take.
[02:31–02:33] Hi words, Eek, I have the best update ever.
[02:33–02:36] If you remember from your live show in April, my girlfriend put in your
[02:36–02:39] demo box saying, wait for my G after propose maybe tonight.
[02:39–02:42] Well update, I propose and we're over the moon,
[02:42–02:43] but raising was not the life.
[02:43–02:46] Oh, oh my god.
[02:46–02:47] So cute.
[02:47–02:48] Congratulations.
[02:49–02:51] It's our first home wedding wedding.
[02:51–02:52] Magic. Can we come?
[02:52–02:53] Can we come?
[02:53–02:54] I would go in life.
[02:54–02:55] I fully would come.
[02:55–02:56] Like, hi.
[02:57–02:58] Now literally we base you made it happen.
[02:59–03:01] Yeah, yeah, we put it into existence.
[03:01–03:02] We've all delighted for you.
[03:02–03:03] So cute.
[03:03–03:05] Let's know the wedding plans.
[03:05–03:08] You can listen to that live show now actually.
[03:08–03:10] Oh, yes, we released it the week before last.
[03:10–03:11] Yep.
[03:11–03:14] To the only user taster of what the live shows are like and
[03:14–03:16] it's excited for the next one.
[03:16–03:17] Mm hmm.
[03:17–03:19] Now congratulations again.
[03:19–03:19] So cute.
[03:19–03:20] Like, congratulations.
[03:21–03:24] So we post clips of some other dilemmas in our
[03:24–03:25] or on our Instagram page.
[03:25–03:27] So tell me drink pods and on our TikToks as well.
[03:27–03:29] So you can give your feelings and advice in the comments
[03:29–03:32] if sending we missed and they're all sent into home.
[03:32–03:33] I drink a girl out now calm.
[03:33–03:36] This is the only way we take in dilemmas for this segment.
[03:36–03:38] So always send them there and they're always in on us too.
[03:39–03:40] The first one is hey, Charlie and Ellie,
[03:40–03:43] I absolutely adore the pod and love your advice so much.
[03:43–03:46] You have so many people and myself and you gave me more confidence.
[03:46–03:50] Some days I get really down on myself and it actually makes me feel depressed.
[03:50–03:52] Charlie and I go to therapy.
[03:52–03:53] It's the best and I do recommend it to.
[03:53–03:55] It's like a best friend you can talk to about anything.
[03:55–03:57] I was just wondering if you have any advice to make me more
[03:57–03:59] motivated to go to the gym.
[03:59–04:01] I have a membership but I don't really leave the house because of
[04:01–04:02] because of this.
[04:02–04:05] I use research now, I've gone person but I'm not anymore.
[04:05–04:07] I also do nails too but I've never have any motivation
[04:07–04:10] because I really get into my own head.
[04:10–04:12] I'm only after a 18 in January.
[04:12–04:13] I know myself.
[04:13–04:16] I should be out living my life and it breaks my heart to see me waste the years.
[04:16–04:18] I'm young because I know I'll regret it when I'm older.
[04:18–04:21] I really would appreciate some advice because I'm about to break down and cry
[04:21–04:25] and write in this night as a tear pod every day in work and it's put a smile in my face every morning.
[04:26–04:30] I appreciate you both so much and your help so much, Birds.
[04:30–04:31] Don't cry.
[04:31–04:31] Oh my heart.
[04:32–04:34] You're not wasting your younger years.
[04:34–04:36] Your younger years haven't even started.
[04:36–04:39] You're only gone 18 since January.
[04:39–04:42] What do you think you should be doing in those 11 months yet?
[04:42–04:43] What?
[04:43–04:43] Yeah.
[04:43–04:45] Don't be putting yourself under pressure.
[04:46–04:48] You're allowed to have sad times in your life.
[04:48–04:49] Yeah.
[04:49–04:51] And I think
[04:54–04:55] terrifree is obviously your already in it.
[04:56–04:59] But I think you need something that's going to force you to get out of the house.
[04:59–05:04] Like a gym membership is all well and good but like that's your thing.
[05:04–05:05] I think like
[05:07–05:10] I don't know how like book a class you can't get every year because some gym,
[05:10–05:16] a lot of most gyms have classes like spin class and all that you can join.
[05:16–05:18] Things like that's what you actually know.
[05:18–05:19] You have to go to it like mate,
[05:19–05:20] that comes with yourself.
[05:20–05:24] Look, I'm going to go and maybe the first three times you get up and you don't want to go and you don't.
[05:24–05:24] That's fine.
[05:24–05:26] But you try again.
[05:26–05:32] They just keep trying and trying and like the more you set yourself a little task like
[05:32–05:36] I talk to my therapist and I was like oh I was not to go to gym this morning.
[05:36–05:37] I didn't feel shit about that.
[05:37–05:38] I didn't go.
[05:38–05:40] She was like well don't write off your whole day.
[05:40–05:43] Like don't yeah she's like don't like you can do something else.
[05:43–05:47] I'm like I've wasted my day now like the day started off bad but it's because I probably
[05:47–05:49] gave myself an unreal unrealistic exercise.
[05:49–05:52] You can get it off by that time because I was wrecked and I before because I was really busy.
[05:52–05:52] Yeah.
[05:52–05:54] Like she was like don't put unrealistic things on yourself.
[05:54–05:55] Right.
[05:55–05:58] Just because then you'll feel shit from the moment you open your eyes.
[05:58–05:58] Yeah.
[05:58–05:59] Because you're like focused on your mind.
[05:59–06:01] I'm so again, no because I was wrecked.
[06:01–06:04] Mentor girls are gym days real and like then you get yourself into a rut then.
[06:05–06:06] Yeah, you will write the whole day off.
[06:06–06:06] You will.
[06:06–06:07] Yeah, and hate the whole day.
[06:07–06:08] Yeah.
[06:08–06:11] So I think having something booked like even start with like once a week.
[06:11–06:16] Like don't if you set your goals you would like you're not going to trust yourself.
[06:16–06:17] You need to do.
[06:17–06:17] You need to do.
[06:17–06:20] Yeah, you need to build like a trust in relation with yourself.
[06:20–06:23] It's going to make you trust that you're going to feel better.
[06:23–06:25] Like if you do like one a week and do that you can go up to two.
[06:26–06:27] But like then if you don't.
[06:27–06:29] Yeah, but if you don't make that then that's fine too.
[06:31–06:34] Or like if you don't if you get open you're going to the gym like just like
[06:34–06:35] create that's fine.
[06:35–06:37] I'll have a rest morning said like don't bring it up.
[06:37–06:38] Which is the rest of the day.
[06:38–06:39] Yeah.
[06:39–06:42] Um, would you go on a walk or something maybe instead of the gym?
[06:42–06:43] Yeah, or friends.
[06:44–06:44] Yeah.
[06:45–06:49] If it's if it's motivation to go to the gym is what you're looking for.
[06:49–06:51] Start smaller like.
[06:51–06:53] Walks towards the gym and then walk on.
[06:53–06:54] Yeah, like you want to be?
[06:54–06:54] Yeah.
[06:54–06:54] Yeah.
[06:54–06:57] Don't necessarily have to actually make it in there every day.
[06:57–06:57] Yeah.
[06:57–07:00] But each day you might get a little bit closer to going.
[07:01–07:02] And even go with friends.
[07:02–07:03] Yeah.
[07:03–07:06] For the first because always in your head like I got real I got a fear of the gym.
[07:08–07:09] A while ago like what?
[07:09–07:13] Maybe like summertime but I just didn't want to go to my gym like I loved
[07:13–07:14] PT was I loved going today.
[07:14–07:15] Yeah.
[07:15–07:17] But she went home to her and leave and then I just had my the flight.
[07:17–07:19] Never got it big commercial.
[07:19–07:22] Yeah, I usually love them but this one I just got the fear over.
[07:22–07:25] I was like every time I was there I didn't like it and like then the top of
[07:25–07:28] gone just it looks real dark on my head.
[07:28–07:29] Does it get on to go there?
[07:29–07:30] No.
[07:30–07:33] Yeah, and it's just it's about just getting over that I'm moving out just being
[07:33–07:34] a great that's quick I'm quitting that.
[07:34–07:35] I don't want to be there.
[07:35–07:35] Yeah.
[07:35–07:37] So did and just do something else.
[07:37–07:38] Yeah.
[07:38–07:39] Maybe pop it out for something.
[07:39–07:39] Yeah.
[07:40–07:43] Like even a pick up a hobby like people were telling me ones now with my
[07:43–07:48] foot that I can do and said like pottery, knitting, reading.
[07:48–07:51] Like something else put your time and energy and something that you do
[07:51–07:55] and not think about it now because then you can just switch off.
[07:55–07:58] Even reading because I agree to the only thing or something with your hands
[07:58–08:00] the only thing you can do and not be on your phone at the same time.
[08:01–08:03] Yeah and you're using your mind.
[08:03–08:03] Yeah.
[08:03–08:04] Well yeah.
[08:04–08:07] Or like even reading you can't really listen to read and watch the TV
[08:07–08:09] where you can do part-time what she lives in time but like you know me and my
[08:09–08:10] cousins are talking about it.
[08:10–08:11] Do you remember Scoobies?
[08:12–08:13] Oh my god yeah I can never do that.
[08:13–08:14] Could you not do that now?
[08:14–08:14] Oh.
[08:14–08:16] Anything with my hands is not.
[08:16–08:17] I was obsessed with them.
[08:17–08:20] They'd be coming out my pockets like they we oh.
[08:20–08:21] I just kept it to make them for me.
[08:21–08:21] I did.
[08:22–08:23] You just give them the colors.
[08:23–08:23] Yeah.
[08:23–08:24] You know make me.
[08:24–08:25] Can you start that for me?
[08:25–08:28] Oh people use I talk you know how to do the rest either.
[08:28–08:31] Every use of people used to make them around pens.
[08:31–08:32] Yeah.
[08:32–08:33] How do they do that?
[08:33–08:34] I could only do the far one.
[08:35–08:36] I know the one.
[08:36–08:37] I couldn't do say.
[08:37–08:39] If I die my work and they're like toxic or something.
[08:39–08:40] Probably.
[08:40–08:40] I used to choose them.
[08:40–08:41] Not yet.
[08:41–08:42] It's funny really bad.
[08:42–08:44] I might try to order them on Amazon.
[08:44–08:45] They weren't I used to choose actually.
[08:45–08:46] Yeah.
[08:46–08:46] I'm making it.
[08:46–08:47] I can feel them now.
[08:47–08:48] Yeah yeah yeah.
[08:48–08:48] Imagine.
[08:48–08:49] Yeah.
[08:50–08:53] Well something to take your mind off things don't put yourself under pressure
[08:53–08:56] to be a gym girl if you're not like.
[08:56–08:59] And the the worst thing you can do when you're feeling down is to be hired on
[08:59–09:00] yourself like you.
[09:00–09:03] How would you talk to someone who isn't you?
[09:03–09:05] Like your friend would you talk to them and say,
[09:05–09:07] oh, I feel shit, like that I'm not doing this.
[09:07–09:09] I should be doing more.
[09:09–09:12] Like talk to yourself like you're your friends.
[09:12–09:14] Not like you're letting yourself to them.
[09:14–09:15] Cause you're not.
[09:15–09:17] You're allowed to have ups and downs in life.
[09:17–09:18] And you're only a baby.
[09:18–09:19] Yeah.
[09:19–09:20] 10 years younger than me.
[09:20–09:21] And yeah.
[09:21–09:25] And like, yeah.
[09:25–09:28] Just a little things, even like a journal,
[09:28–09:30] be great, journeying in your thoughts.
[09:30–09:32] And just get out there and even talking to your friend
[09:32–09:33] as well as your therapist.
[09:33–09:36] Maybe not as much in detail, but just expressing
[09:36–09:38] any feel because you're not the only one.
[09:38–09:40] And I think that's, yes, to my therapist that like,
[09:40–09:42] it's matter people, all of us in our own heads
[09:42–09:44] just think we're the only ones going through stuff.
[09:44–09:46] Cause you can't, you can't feel, you can't see it.
[09:46–09:47] Some of them are wearing.
[09:47–09:48] Yeah.
[09:48–09:49] But it's matter you're in every attack, you know,
[09:49–09:51] what's in someone's head like.
[09:51–09:51] What's going on?
[09:51–09:52] Yeah.
[09:52–09:53] Yeah, everyone's there.
[09:53–09:56] Well, everyone says no.
[09:56–09:58] But yeah, hopefully that's helping.
[09:58–09:59] We love you loads.
[09:59–10:00] And that's now here.
[10:00–10:02] The next one is, hi girls.
[10:02–10:03] Absolutely live for the party each week.
[10:03–10:06] And recently been to your last live show.
[10:06–10:08] These are two things that roll into one.
[10:08–10:10] I'm young 17, but it's always been said
[10:10–10:12] that I act more mature with my age.
[10:12–10:15] In my group of girls, I'm the one who always listens
[10:15–10:16] to the girl's stories.
[10:16–10:17] And I'm there when they need a show.
[10:17–10:20] Just cry on or some advice about their boy problems.
[10:20–10:21] But when I need to talk with mine,
[10:21–10:23] it's like I'm not being heard or listened to
[10:23–10:26] because I'm the type to be the mommy of the group.
[10:26–10:29] I've been texting her seeing a boy I know for three plus years.
[10:29–10:30] Wow.
[10:30–10:31] What?
[10:31–10:33] I'm so emotionally mentally connected to him
[10:33–10:35] to the point where I know I shouldn't be.
[10:35–10:37] He's recently been seeing a new girl
[10:37–10:41] after a failed stage between us with him telling me
[10:41–10:42] it'll work again.
[10:42–10:44] It's breaking my heart because he was the forest person
[10:44–10:46] I ran to with my achievements.
[10:46–10:47] And I can't do it anymore.
[10:47–10:49] As far as I'm just looking for the truth,
[10:49–10:51] will he come back and try again or should I go back
[10:51–10:53] to normal day to day life?
[10:53–10:55] I love being busy, but not even my distractions
[10:55–10:56] can keep my mind off him.
[10:56–10:58] Any advice appreciated?
[10:58–11:02] Thanks, guys, and I love your advice very much.
[11:02–11:05] Three years is a long time.
[11:05–11:05] Three plus years.
[11:08–11:12] I think if he was able to be, I'm so like since Francis was in,
[11:12–11:14] I feel like I know more things.
[11:14–11:15] Yeah.
[11:15–11:19] But like if he was able to be seen and texted you for three years,
[11:19–11:21] but didn't make you his.
[11:21–11:21] He won't.
[11:21–11:22] He won't.
[11:22–11:23] Yeah.
[11:23–11:26] Because he wants to always have you there as an option.
[11:26–11:29] If men really want that, they'll just,
[11:29–11:30] they'll do their thing.
[11:30–11:33] They'll make it known if you're theirs or not.
[11:33–11:34] Yeah.
[11:34–11:36] It's harsh, but it's the reality of it.
[11:36–11:39] Sometimes we all need a harsh slap of reality.
[11:39–11:39] Yeah.
[11:39–11:41] We all live in our own dilululans too much.
[11:41–11:44] And then we end up getting more hurt with things like,
[11:44–11:47] don't want you around for someone who couldn't even make it
[11:47–11:48] his after three years.
[11:48–11:49] After three years.
[11:49–11:51] After three years.
[11:51–11:54] And she said that they had a failed stage between them.
[11:54–11:58] So they tried after a failed stage between us.
[11:58–12:01] Because they say I'd say it was the case of like they kept
[12:01–12:03] seeing each other and they'd suffer a little bit and then back.
[12:03–12:08] And yeah, I think the.
[12:08–12:13] He told you look she said a failed stage between us with him
[12:13–12:15] telling me it'll never work again.
[12:15–12:16] Take his word for.
[12:16–12:17] Yeah.
[12:17–12:18] Listen to what you don't want to.
[12:18–12:23] But like listen, listen to what he says and take that.
[12:23–12:26] Like if he comes back at some stage.
[12:26–12:28] Well then you deal with it then, but don't hold it.
[12:28–12:29] Don't hold it for that.
[12:29–12:30] Yeah, don't wait for it.
[12:30–12:31] Like don't wait around.
[12:31–12:32] You know what you've really moved on.
[12:32–12:33] Yeah.
[12:33–12:34] Don't wait for someone who's not waiting on you.
[12:34–12:36] And he's like, what are these things?
[12:36–12:37] She if she goes seeing someone else here,
[12:37–12:38] haven't heard of it earlier.
[12:38–12:39] Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[12:39–12:40] Why would you do that?
[12:40–12:41] Well, sorry, but.
[12:41–12:42] You're done.
[12:42–12:43] What did they say?
[12:43–12:45] The park called the cat or the black or something.
[12:45–12:46] I never heard that.
[12:46–12:47] No.
[12:47–12:48] No, no, no.
[12:48–12:49] What does it mean?
[12:49–12:50] The park called the cat or the black.
[12:50–12:52] I think it's like double standards.
[12:52–12:53] Like you would do it by car.
[12:53–12:54] Oh, okay.
[12:54–12:55] Yeah, yeah.
[12:55–12:57] Yeah, because the partner car is the same thing.
[12:57–12:58] But they're different things.
[12:58–12:59] I don't know.
[12:59–13:00] Let me just make sure I got.
[13:00–13:01] I don't know.
[13:01–13:02] Different things.
[13:02–13:03] I don't know.
[13:03–13:04] Park calling.
[13:04–13:07] Kesel black meaning.
[13:07–13:11] The park called the cat or black.
[13:11–13:12] Yeah.
[13:12–13:16] Used to convey that the criticism of a person is aiming at someone else.
[13:16–13:18] Could it equally well apply to themselves?
[13:18–13:19] Yeah.
[13:19–13:22] The council is complaining that the poll staff is a slower communication.
[13:22–13:24] Talk about the park calling the cat or black.
[13:24–13:25] Yeah.
[13:25–13:26] Oh, yeah.
[13:26–13:28] I don't feel the black parts.
[13:28–13:29] Cat or black.
[13:29–13:31] Go because the part is black.
[13:31–13:33] Part or black.
[13:33–13:37] I don't think it's going to be a tea park.
[13:37–13:41] I always think of a park like a cooking park.
[13:41–13:42] So I'll spend.
[13:42–13:43] Yeah.
[13:43–13:44] So that's how black I've been caught.
[13:44–13:45] Mine's metal.
[13:45–13:46] I don't know.
[13:46–13:47] Anyway, yeah.
[13:47–13:50] Basically means that you're a continent like, yeah, double-sense.
[13:50–13:51] Okay.
[13:51–13:52] You do, I can't.
[13:52–13:53] Yeah.
[13:53–13:54] That's probably what will happen.
[13:54–13:55] Definitely.
[13:55–13:56] I think that you don't weigh over.
[13:56–13:57] No.
[13:57–14:01] I know he's like, when you're that age, especially your 70 and like, you're like, ah, he was my one
[14:01–14:02] true love forever.
[14:02–14:03] Don't know.
[14:03–14:06] You'll think that you'll grow up and then be like, what the fuck?
[14:06–14:09] Have me my ex years ago.
[14:09–14:15] But like literally thought was the one and only that we'd be together forever.
[14:15–14:16] Yeah.
[14:16–14:21] And I said, yeah, I was literally like, no, I can't even remember the name of that person.
[14:21–14:22] No, no, no.
[14:22–14:28] It's just like, it's just when you're in that young mindset, you think the world is so small,
[14:28–14:32] you think you're, you think you're grown at that age, you think you've mastered everything
[14:32–14:33] in life.
[14:33–14:35] Why don't you hit your mid 20s?
[14:35–14:36] You won't learn.
[14:36–14:37] You won't know what we're going to.
[14:37–14:40] No, no shit.
[14:40–14:44] I think as well, like, you're, it's your first person.
[14:44–14:45] Yeah.
[14:45–14:47] Because like, and you're like, that's all you know, you don't know these feelings.
[14:47–14:49] Yeah, you're so, so exciting.
[14:49–14:52] You know, I always mind like my first phone love.
[14:52–14:55] You know, that spray, the body spray impulse.
[14:55–14:57] Oh, no, no, not so.
[14:57–14:58] I remember it.
[14:58–14:59] I remember it.
[14:59–15:00] Yeah.
[15:00–15:02] And it was called like true love.
[15:02–15:03] Yeah.
[15:03–15:04] Oh my god.
[15:04–15:05] I was looking, I looked at a banana on through the day.
[15:05–15:06] I was going to buy it.
[15:06–15:08] I just need to smell it again, like just for the nostalgia.
[15:08–15:11] Because it's, yeah, it's not like all the new packaging, I want the old packaging.
[15:11–15:12] Oh, yeah, the old can.
[15:12–15:13] I need the old can.
[15:13–15:14] These three cheaper ships.
[15:14–15:15] They do?
[15:15–15:18] That was perfume back in the day.
[15:18–15:19] Oh, blasted.
[15:19–15:20] Probably not that long.
[15:20–15:22] No, no, no, you're the after you walk it on your.
[15:22–15:23] Yeah.
[15:23–15:25] I actually smell it so.
[15:25–15:26] Oh, perfume was a, I don't know.
[15:26–15:27] I'm not going to have so.
[15:27–15:28] Oh, it did.
[15:28–15:29] You definitely did.
[15:29–15:30] Oh my god.
[15:30–15:31] You won't hold your senses.
[15:31–15:34] Because it was a body spray, wasn't it?
[15:34–15:35] Or missed.
[15:35–15:36] Was it a miss?
[15:36–15:38] Yeah, they have her films as well.
[15:38–15:39] Yeah, yeah.
[15:39–15:43] And like, you were the bees days and you were drenched and it got more.
[15:43–15:44] Oh, drenched.
[15:44–15:46] Every time I left, I got to get to the movies.
[15:46–15:51] In the halls, sort of like, when parents, the halls deduces, they're like, all just
[15:51–15:52] impulse and so on.
[15:52–15:53] Definitely, yeah.
[15:53–15:54] So funny.
[15:54–15:59] Um, but yeah, I think move on, we're giving you the harsh truth.
[15:59–16:00] Mm-hmm.
[16:00–16:03] If I could tell myself that at that age, I would, he's not worth waiting for.
[16:03–16:10] And there's always be like, no, to show your achievements to who are going to care more than
[16:10–16:11] he does as well.
[16:11–16:14] Anyway, so he's not a lost, dear life.
[16:14–16:16] Next one is, hi, Charlie and Ellie.
[16:16–16:19] I've been going through something real crazy lately and I could redo what you're important
[16:19–16:20] this one.
[16:20–16:23] It might sound so crazy, so book a look.
[16:23–16:24] For reference, I'm 23.
[16:24–16:26] I just have ever heard you say, don't cry.
[16:26–16:27] Crazy.
[16:27–16:31] I'd actually say crazy all the time.
[16:31–16:33] I don't know what you're saying.
[16:33–16:34] What did I say?
[16:34–16:36] I never shared say that.
[16:36–16:37] What did I say?
[16:37–16:38] It's like so crazy.
[16:38–16:39] So crazy.
[16:39–16:40] So crazy.
[16:40–16:41] So crazy.
[16:41–16:42] So crazy.
[16:42–16:43] So book a look.
[16:43–16:45] For reference, I'm 23 and completely single.
[16:45–16:49] I met my closest guy friend for the first time when we were really young children.
[16:49–16:52] We know each other because of our families and we are close friends.
[16:52–16:53] We were both 15.
[16:53–16:57] We both had our first kiss together, but agreed to forget about it because both of our families
[16:57–16:59] are close friends and didn't want to complicate it.
[16:59–17:00] It's very mature, 15.
[17:00–17:01] I'm like marrying you.
[17:01–17:03] Yeah, plant one of my boyfriend.
[17:03–17:09] Nothing else happened for a good few years, but after it jumped forward to this year, we slept
[17:09–17:13] together twice, but again agreed to let go because of the complications involved in our
[17:13–17:14] families close ties.
[17:14–17:19] Six weeks ago, he moved to the States, but before he left, he came to my house and basically
[17:19–17:21] confessed to his love for me.
[17:21–17:22] Aww.
[17:22–17:24] That's my new love film.
[17:24–17:25] I can't remember the name, I love it.
[17:25–17:26] Love Rose, he loves Rose.
[17:26–17:29] I felt the same, but again, for the sake of everyone, I said best not to complicate.
[17:29–17:33] I said best not to complicate things, even though I really wanted him.
[17:33–17:36] He told me that I forgave my chance, he wouldn't move away, but I told him he should go,
[17:36–17:37] and so he did.
[17:37–17:40] Now, two and six weeks since he moved away, my heart is broken.
[17:40–17:43] I miss him so much, and I'm actually going to realize that I actually am maddened
[17:43–17:44] for him.
[17:44–17:47] One half of me thinks it's too late now and the other half of me wants to go get in a
[17:47–17:50] plane and follow him over, but I know that's not realistic.
[17:50–17:55] I'm obsessed with checking a social media constantly monitoring his stories and followers,
[17:55–17:57] trying to build a picture of who he's meeting over there.
[17:57–18:00] I know it sounds crazy, where should I go from here?
[18:00–18:02] Should I tell him how I feel or keep a bottle up?
[18:02–18:06] The problem is that I don't know if I can keep it to myself any longer.
[18:06–18:10] We've very time twice, at least twice a week, and I'm completely hooked on him.
[18:10–18:11] I'd really love to hear your thoughts on this.
[18:11–18:13] I really don't know what to do.
[18:13–18:14] My heart is really aching.
[18:14–18:17] I've never had this feeling before, and I'm really worried that I've missed my chance.
[18:17–18:19] Girl, get on the plane!
[18:19–18:21] Do it!
[18:21–18:22] Get on the plane!
[18:22–18:23] Get on the fucking plane!
[18:23–18:25] This is exactly like the prize!
[18:25–18:27] This is like, this is exactly like the movie.
[18:27–18:28] It's like she took off the movie.
[18:28–18:32] Oh my god, if she doesn't go and I don't have to tell her so I have to.
[18:32–18:33] Get on the plane.
[18:33–18:34] Surprise!
[18:34–18:35] Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[18:35–18:37] Just throw up at the store and give them a huge kiss.
[18:37–18:40] Aww, we're going to do it.
[18:40–18:41] Oh my god.
[18:41–18:42] He feels the same way you feel.
[18:42–18:43] Yeah, just that he confessed to you.
[18:43–18:44] It's very mature.
[18:44–18:45] How much are you not so much of a...
[18:45–18:47] Tell him just to go and I'll like...
[18:47–18:48] Cause the fun, me.
[18:48–18:52] I know, I get what they mean, but they're very mature, for real, I was not 15.
[18:52–18:56] I'm like, it would complicate if they were like whatever, but...
[18:56–18:57] If you don't try, I never know.
[18:57–19:00] And like at the end of the day, this is going on, what?
[19:00–19:02] Here's now, I think his...
[19:02–19:03] I think his earnlots.
[19:03–19:05] Oh my god, get on the plane.
[19:05–19:06] Quick.
[19:06–19:07] That's adorable.
[19:07–19:09] That is so fucking cute.
[19:09–19:11] Just prising to show up to show up.
[19:11–19:12] Just show up.
[19:12–19:15] Like, and then you can decide what you're going to do with your life.
[19:15–19:18] And how much you miss him and like that's...
[19:18–19:19] It just shows how much you have feelings for him.
[19:19–19:20] Like I wouldn't...
[19:20–19:21] There's no question.
[19:21–19:25] There's no question you're mind now that how you feel.
[19:25–19:27] Maybe it was good for him to go for you to read.
[19:27–19:33] Maybe realise that even though you're new, but I think you have to go.
[19:33–19:34] Go to him.
[19:34–19:36] This sounds literally like something ever made.
[19:36–19:38] No, honestly, I like do it.
[19:38–19:40] I want you to do it like send us blogs.
[19:40–19:41] Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[19:41–19:42] I think this will be...
[19:42–19:43] Blogger, I'll answer it.
[19:43–19:44] Yeah.
[19:44–19:46] This will be your canon event, like when you're...
[19:46–19:49] Your moment in your relationship where you're like, well, remember I came and flew over
[19:49–19:50] to you and...
[19:50–19:51] Oh my god.
[19:51–19:53] You have to do it.
[19:53–19:55] Why is it really sick to do it?
[19:56–19:58] And also if he's in, say to get...
[19:58–20:01] Most likely a year, probably for one of them graduate visas.
[20:01–20:02] I'm guessing.
[20:02–20:04] So whoever it is, put like...
[20:04–20:07] Then he can come home after a year.
[20:07–20:10] He was basically doing lung distance anyway, because he had been...
[20:10–20:11] Mm.
[20:11–20:12] Together.
[20:12–20:13] Yeah, even though lung distance is all your lung distance.
[20:13–20:15] Yeah, for the last eight years.
[20:15–20:18] Can you actually be like in...
[20:18–20:21] In a relationship where you have to fly to him?
[20:21–20:22] You have to go.
[20:22–20:23] I know, I know.
[20:23–20:25] I think... I was gonna say it's not realistic, but it is.
[20:25–20:26] It is.
[20:26–20:27] It is.
[20:27–20:28] Please get the flights.
[20:28–20:30] So what I'll have to actually...
[20:30–20:32] Actually, flights are expensive, so...
[20:32–20:34] Save up your money for your...
[20:34–20:35] If I don't...
[20:35–20:36] I'll just change the race.
[20:36–20:37] Probably the full time job.
[20:37–20:41] So just sacrifice your next few nights out for the next couple of months, a few months.
[20:41–20:43] Get flights.
[20:43–20:44] Class you vote.
[20:44–20:45] You've got the most good time.
[20:45–20:46] 400, just maybe.
[20:46–20:47] January sales.
[20:47–20:48] Come on.
[20:48–20:49] Come on up.
[20:49–20:50] Mm-hmm.
[20:50–20:51] Sacrifice for your nights out.
[20:51–20:52] Sacrifice for you.
[20:52–20:53] Oh, sorry, not there.
[20:53–20:54] Sacrifice for you.
[20:54–20:55] Cloud shop.
[20:55–20:56] Yeah.
[20:56–20:59] Or just tell your mom that, I need to give me money.
[20:59–21:00] Yeah.
[21:00–21:01] That's you.
[21:01–21:02] Yeah, yeah.
[21:02–21:03] Yeah, I'm in love.
[21:03–21:04] Yeah, I'm in love when you're...
[21:04–21:05] They would definitely give money.
[21:05–21:06] 100%.
[21:06–21:07] Oh.
[21:07–21:08] If you made a goal for me, I would...
[21:08–21:09] I would tell me.
[21:09–21:10] I'm not even messing.
[21:10–21:11] Get me to Merka.
[21:11–21:13] Get you to him, honestly.
[21:13–21:15] I think, yeah, you should just go and do it.
[21:15–21:17] What's that can happen is you get over there.
[21:17–21:19] Okay, so this is if you do go.
[21:19–21:21] You get over there.
[21:21–21:22] And he's...
[21:22–21:23] And you realize it doesn't work.
[21:23–21:24] You try.
[21:24–21:25] You'll never not wonder then.
[21:25–21:28] Where it's the sitting and wondering is the worst part.
[21:28–21:29] Yeah.
[21:29–21:30] But honestly, we will get...
[21:30–21:31] We will donate like...
[21:31–21:32] Yeah, yes.
[21:32–21:33] We will give bond to this.
[21:33–21:34] Yeah.
[21:34–21:35] Not fully like...
[21:35–21:36] No, not fully.
[21:36–21:37] Charlie might...
[21:37–21:38] We'll give you a break.
[21:38–21:39] Oh.
[21:39–21:43] But the only condition is you have to send us a video.
[21:43–21:45] We don't have to put anywhere we want to say when you're re-enighted.
[21:45–21:46] Yeah.
[21:46–21:48] I just want to see it.
[21:48–21:49] Yeah, I want to hear how you feel.
[21:49–21:51] Yeah, you can vlog how you feel.
[21:51–21:52] Yeah, yeah, yeah.
[21:52–21:53] Just do a check-out for keep...
[21:53–21:54] Keep rising.
[21:54–21:55] Oh my God.
[21:55–21:56] I love this.
[21:56–21:57] My pan.
[21:57–21:58] Keep us updated.
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