EXTRA JUICE: "When it comes to having sex, I try and avoid it..." #69 — Hold My Drink

[00:00–00:04] Hold my drink, extra juice with Charlene and Ellie.
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[01:47–01:48] This is episode 69.
[01:48–01:49] Hello.
[01:49–01:50] Hello.
[01:50–01:51] Hello.
[01:51–01:52] Hello.
[01:52–01:54] So these are the updates and we love getting updates
[01:54–01:57] and if you ever have an update of any situation for us,
[01:57–02:01] even if it's like one sentence, like just please love it in.
[02:01–02:04] And also give us a little background of what the demo was so you can find it easily.
[02:04–02:08] So in Bones episode 56, we answered this dilemma.
[02:08–02:11] I'm currently in a relationship with this amazing man.
[02:11–02:14] We're together for nine months now because he knows much print test treatment day and day
[02:14–02:15] out.
[02:15–02:18] He has brought me nothing but happiness and adventures and joy to my life and my family
[02:18–02:19] absolutely adore him.
[02:19–02:22] But most time ago, I drink and he starts arguing with me.
[02:22–02:25] This happens on a number of occasions now and all the arguments are him accusing me
[02:25–02:28] of being CD on my phone when we're out.
[02:28–02:31] When he's sober next day, he takes it all back and says it's his own experience from
[02:31–02:34] his previous relationship and does nothing that I'm that type of girl.
[02:34–02:37] But then we'll go on accusing me again when he's drunk, which then makes you feel like
[02:37–02:40] I'm doing something wrong or not too enough to make him feel secure in our relationship.
[02:40–02:43] So I'm starting to second guess myself as a girlfriend.
[02:43–02:44] Christmas just gone.
[02:44–02:47] You said enough to encourage fight that's left me rethink and everything.
[02:47–02:49] I should add also he's very hard childhood and struggle six.
[02:49–02:50] I'm a racist feelings.
[02:50–02:53] So I'm setting holds it in and then explodes with drink on him.
[02:53–02:54] Never physically violent.
[02:54–02:58] I'm awaiting for growing up to fix mental health or am I starting to hurt my own by helping
[02:58–02:59] to fix his.
[02:59–03:00] Here's the update.
[03:00–03:03] Hey girls, thank you so much for taking the time to remodel
[03:03–03:04] Emma.
[03:04–03:06] I was in complete shock when I heard you.
[03:06–03:09] So just want to let you know that me and my amazing man are still going strong and have
[03:09–03:10] never been better.
[03:10–03:14] He's decided not to drink on the head for God ever since New Year's Eve and is
[03:14–03:16] stuck by it to this day.
[03:16–03:19] He has changed his mentality around drinking completely.
[03:19–03:23] He now has a high niggas zero if he's socializing and has no desire of drinking again.
[03:23–03:27] He says we in soap one night out has given him the opportunity to take a step back and
[03:27–03:31] see what drink does to people and how messy he can get and he is so glad that he can
[03:31–03:33] be a social butterfly without the hangover.
[03:33–03:35] His mindset is so contagious.
[03:35–03:37] He's so positive to be around and we're smashing our goals together.
[03:37–03:41] I was so very sick it out with him because I thought it was going to be a vicious cycle
[03:41–03:43] and I was worried if it was going to work or not being in a relationship with someone
[03:43–03:44] who doesn't drink.
[03:44–03:48] I'm so happy I still could out because I get the best burdens of him and we go out together
[03:48–03:50] and have the best time without the arguments.
[03:50–03:54] I mean, I could have thought he makes me go for walks or runs on the weekends because
[03:54–03:57] he's always fresh but I'll take that over to a toxic relationship any day.
[03:57–04:01] Thank you so much for your advice and I hope this helps girls and boys in similar situations.
[04:01–04:03] Just go to show you don't need that'll call to be fun.
[04:03–04:04] Thanks girls, love you.
[04:04–04:05] That's so cute.
[04:05–04:06] No, I'm so true.
[04:06–04:07] I love that.
[04:07–04:08] I love that.
[04:08–04:09] I would.
[04:09–04:12] I mean, you stand up and I was like I never want to drink again that I would not be
[04:12–04:13] one of the bothers.
[04:13–04:16] I wish that I'd run around and say I never want to drink again.
[04:16–04:17] I'm not way.
[04:17–04:18] Oh, we need to.
[04:18–04:20] We are too old for this now.
[04:20–04:21] Yeah.
[04:21–04:24] I would want even if it was like a red day, I like I wouldn't I'd actually rather
[04:24–04:26] someone didn't drink any.
[04:26–04:28] I couldn't do it when I was out every weekend.
[04:28–04:29] I don't know.
[04:29–04:32] Turns to fall off and doesn't reply to like I'm half a straight ass.
[04:32–04:33] No.
[04:33–04:34] My I would.
[04:34–04:35] I could not.
[04:35–04:40] Another update then in episode 73 we answered this dilemma.
[04:40–04:43] I finished with my boyfriend and found a distraction but I told him I wasn't looking
[04:43–04:45] for a relationship and that was completely fine.
[04:45–04:48] But now he's getting so bad to give me attention.
[04:48–04:52] I reply and to me takes ages sometimes and I don't see him too often.
[04:52–04:58] I'm very straight out and I say it and I say it and he will apologise or he'll acknowledge
[04:58–05:01] you before I say but nothing changes.
[05:01–05:04] I don't want a relationship but I want to have someone there.
[05:04–05:07] I just need attention sometimes.
[05:07–05:10] I enjoy my own time a lot so most of the time I'm happy out but I'm finding this is
[05:10–05:15] now starting to bother me the lack of time given and the fact he will say he doesn't want
[05:15–05:19] to stop seeing me acts like we're together when I do see him but the communication between
[05:19–05:21] us is a joke.
[05:21–05:22] Very confusing.
[05:22–05:29] But girls when I tell you the sex is unreal and I mean unreal I can't leave it go.
[05:29–05:33] But health if I was one of your friends what would you genuinely tell me to do?
[05:33–05:35] Throw them in the bin or just keep going.
[05:35–05:37] Would it make sure my garage stays up?
[05:37–05:38] Ooh.
[05:38–05:39] I remember that one.
[05:39–05:41] Yeah I remember last time though.
[05:41–05:43] So here is the update.
[05:43–05:46] Birds do I have an update for you?
[05:46–05:52] Ooh I swear what has happened since I wrote in for your advice is something out of
[05:52–05:54] East Enders.
[05:54–05:59] So I had asked for advice on the fella I was seeing but wasn't too serious and he was
[05:59–06:04] shit it gave me attention and told you and you told me to bin his ass so I did.
[06:04–06:05] Yes girl.
[06:05–06:08] And what had happened since then you won't believe.
[06:08–06:11] Bit of a long one so we prepared but I'll try to not make it too long.
[06:11–06:15] I started a new job in November come December when we finished for Xmas one of the
[06:15–06:18] lads I worked for added me on Facebook and tried chatting to me.
[06:18–06:23] Now I wasn't giving him a briar of him but he didn't give up bless him.
[06:23–06:27] When back to work in January and we started going for lunch together which then led to
[06:27–06:30] a date and my god he was obsessed.
[06:30–06:34] Oh and my god he was obsessed the polar opposite of the last guy.
[06:34–06:38] At first I was like whoa this is a bit more to pretend I started to like it.
[06:38–06:42] Fast forward to February and I found out I'm pregnant.
[06:42–06:45] Oh my god.
[06:45–06:49] So here's something I never thought would happen to me considering I was told I wouldn't
[06:49–06:52] be able to have my own baby and that's all I've ever wanted.
[06:52–06:56] My only dream in life was to be a mommy so after the shock wore off I'm absolutely obsessed
[06:56–07:01] with having a bump and dressing it up I never want the bump to go ever and I can't wait
[07:01–07:06] to have my little pinot in my arm.
[07:06–07:08] I was so more advised I need off you girls.
[07:08–07:12] So my fellow was married and has two kids already.
[07:12–07:16] Now I didn't know the ins and outs of that relationship and I never asked him anything
[07:16–07:20] and the type that is like ignorance is bliss that his past has not got to do with me
[07:20–07:22] but now I'm wishing I'd ask more questions.
[07:22–07:26] What's your opinion and no one about your partner's past relationships?
[07:26–07:31] He had done the usual mail thing tricking into thinking he's perfect, three of them shows
[07:31–07:32] and can be very selfish immature.
[07:32–07:37] He also likes to drink now, not over the top alcoholic or anything but every second weekend
[07:37–07:41] when he could be spending time at me he wants to go to the pub.
[07:41–07:46] We've never had, we've had the same combos over and over where I do tell him that I'm not
[07:46–07:51] saying not to drink but to make me a priority every once in a while.
[07:51–07:53] He's all talk and say yeah I'll change that but doesn't.
[07:53–07:58] I'm happy majority of the time but being pregnant and getting stressed and obsessed scares
[07:58–08:02] me a lot and thinking do I run before a baby comes or keep trying.
[08:02–08:07] But I'm also sick of it being just me trying and it's getting harder and harder.
[08:07–08:10] I'm really struggling now with the fact that he has two kids, something I never thought
[08:10–08:11] I'd have a problem with.
[08:11–08:14] It's harder than you would really think it would be.
[08:14–08:17] I already suffered with my mental health and have done for years and I had a pregnancy
[08:17–08:19] or a month to top of that is not a fun time.
[08:19–08:24] I don't really know what I'm looking for here but an outsider's point of view I guess.
[08:24–08:29] I found out I'm having my own little princess and another little home I drink baby to add
[08:29–08:30] to the collection.
[08:30–08:34] Because I never miss an episode ever.
[08:34–08:38] Me and my little princess P not love you girls lots.
[08:38–08:42] Here's my scam picture and once she is born I make sure to send you another update
[08:42–08:46] of her and look at cute my little bumpers.
[08:46–08:47] Oh my god.
[08:47–08:50] We can't see the picture on this because yeah we'll have a look.
[08:50–08:54] Oh is that holding a slowly way.
[08:54–08:55] God that took a 360 didn't it?
[09:00–09:06] That's tiny. Oh my god. You're stunning.
[09:08–09:12] The boom. Look at your hair. I'm not gonna get her hair in your makeup.
[09:12–09:14] Oh, I didn't see that. Oh wow.
[09:14–09:19] Oh my god. I love when I prank people where Maxi dresses.
[09:19–09:21] I know. I can't do that.
[09:21–09:24] Like I already have my baby shadow on my head.
[09:24–09:26] First got a lot of hair.
[09:26–09:28] Oh my god. You look glowing.
[09:28–09:30] Glowing. Maybe it's cute.
[09:30–09:32] That's so cute.
[09:32–09:35] That's like a really clear sky.
[09:35–09:37] Is it? Yeah. The outline of it.
[09:37–09:38] Yeah. Yeah.
[09:38–09:40] Congratulations.
[09:40–09:41] That is very cute.
[09:41–09:44] So is she saying here that she didn't know we had kids before?
[09:44–09:45] Oh no.
[09:45–09:49] I think she knew she had kids but she didn't know the ins and outs of everything.
[09:49–09:52] Yeah. So my fellow was married and had two kids already.
[09:52–09:55] Now I didn't know the ins and outs of that relationship but I never asked anything.
[09:55–09:58] So I don't think she knew a lot about the relationship but I think she was like a kid.
[09:58–09:59] Yeah.
[09:59–10:07] I like knowing about past relationships because I like knowing a lot of things about the man.
[10:07–10:10] I was having someone before and they had a kid.
[10:10–10:13] But I just had to feel and they had a kid and I was like, how do I ask?
[10:13–10:16] And it was like the first day where I was having someone to get out of the child.
[10:16–10:18] Yeah. So I was like, do you have a dog?
[10:18–10:19] A dog.
[10:19–10:21] And I was like, um, any kid?
[10:21–10:22] Any kid?
[10:22–10:23] Yeah.
[10:23–10:24] Yeah.
[10:24–10:25] I knew that.
[10:25–10:26] But I don't know.
[10:26–10:27] Nothing ends in everything.
[10:27–10:31] So I feel like you need to know a bit of background about the relationships I could like to know.
[10:31–10:33] There was something I should know about.
[10:33–10:34] Yeah.
[10:34–10:37] I don't need to get a something she found out now that she wishes she knew what was.
[10:37–10:38] Yeah.
[10:38–10:43] Something substantial that might impact your relationship then.
[10:43–10:44] Yeah.
[10:44–10:45] Something like that you might need to know.
[10:45–10:46] Yeah.
[10:46–10:48] I don't want to know what you did every fucking Saturday night like for the years.
[10:48–10:49] No.
[10:49–10:50] I don't know.
[10:50–10:51] I was pretty good at the holidays.
[10:51–10:52] Yeah.
[10:52–10:53] I was really good at that.
[10:53–10:55] But we're gonna have to fucking wet and album.
[10:55–10:56] Yeah.
[10:56–10:57] The sound is.
[10:57–10:58] No, it's no.
[10:58–10:59] Um, I don't know.
[10:59–11:00] Should she run?
[11:00–11:02] I don't think so.
[11:02–11:08] I think it's just a work in process process progress.
[11:08–11:16] Well, yeah, I think what things happen so quick, you're gonna obviously have a dispute in your head of them because you, you basically got pregnant when you said very hungry on you inside.
[11:16–11:17] Yeah.
[11:17–11:19] You were still inside of like the man is perfect.
[11:19–11:20] He's no flaws.
[11:20–11:24] He's nothing wrong with him like, but that was never a case.
[11:24–11:32] So I think I think it's your hormones talking as well being like I think you're just over thinking everything.
[11:32–11:33] Yeah.
[11:33–11:35] Yeah, because everything happens so fast.
[11:35–11:36] Yeah.
[11:36–11:37] Yeah.
[11:37–11:38] You're reminded going to overdrive.
[11:38–11:39] Yeah.
[11:39–11:44] Also in the part where he's like, if you're thinking this now, like, do you really want to let yourself be just pointed by him when.
[11:44–11:47] If the baby's born, if that's how she's thinking he's gonna be.
[11:47–11:49] I think maybe I'd give him.
[11:49–11:54] I'd say it one more time about the making her a priority type of thing.
[11:54–11:55] Yeah.
[11:55–11:58] And let him know that like your your will is put your full down like you.
[11:58–11:59] Yeah, because it's you.
[11:59–12:00] Yeah.
[12:00–12:03] You've no problem walking away and going to the poor every second weekend.
[12:03–12:05] Is that what I don't know if that's a pass?
[12:05–12:10] But like I know when you're pregnant like my sister says like, maybe it's just because you're pregnant everything's worse.
[12:10–12:15] Well, yeah, because obviously I've annoyed by a lot of people like the poor every second weekend one.
[12:15–12:18] Like you're I don't know.
[12:18–12:20] It's not a deal.
[12:20–12:22] But when you're pregnant like you're overly sensitive.
[12:22–12:23] Oh, it's like you're out.
[12:23–12:25] You everything is like we're really fans.
[12:25–12:26] Yeah.
[12:26–12:28] Like everything is just the worst thing in the world.
[12:28–12:32] It's one of the fact that you really can go but like as much of the fact you can't go like he used to go.
[12:32–12:33] Yeah.
[12:33–12:34] You kind of feel like you're done by everything.
[12:34–12:35] Yeah.
[12:35–12:36] You're gonna be like, fuck sake.
[12:36–12:37] It's your hormones.
[12:37–12:38] Yeah.
[12:38–12:41] But I don't know.
[12:41–12:43] I think tell them exactly how you feel.
[12:43–12:44] Give it all more chances.
[12:44–12:46] Try and stick it out.
[12:46–12:49] But the opinion of not now I've not known about the past relationships.
[12:49–12:51] I think you should know to a certain extent.
[12:51–12:53] But I don't need to ask things that I need to know like.
[12:53–12:56] Yeah, the need to know basis but like that's what I think.
[12:56–12:57] Yeah.
[12:57–12:58] Yeah.
[12:58–13:00] I think it's good to know.
[13:00–13:02] I don't like things being a secret like.
[13:02–13:03] What's around there?
[13:03–13:04] I don't know.
[13:04–13:05] I don't know.
[13:05–13:06] I don't ask much.
[13:06–13:07] What's around?
[13:07–13:08] We're like.
[13:08–13:09] I don't know.
[13:09–13:10] I don't know.
[13:10–13:11] Yeah.
[13:11–13:12] I'd ask that.
[13:12–13:14] Or like if I heard something about.
[13:14–13:15] Yeah.
[13:15–13:17] Or if I heard something about.
[13:17–13:18] When you ever loved.
[13:18–13:19] Yeah.
[13:19–13:21] If I heard something about them then I got with my like.
[13:21–13:22] Is that true?
[13:22–13:23] Yeah.
[13:23–13:24] What happened there?
[13:24–13:25] Or didn't that.
[13:25–13:26] I want to be.
[13:26–13:29] I want to pretend that I'm the only girl you've ever been with.
[13:29–13:30] Yeah.
[13:30–13:31] Yeah.
[13:31–13:32] Yeah.
[13:32–13:34] So I started thinking too much about you and.
[13:34–13:35] Would all your ex and I know.
[13:35–13:36] Yeah.
[13:36–13:37] Good night.
[13:37–13:40] I think I have that conversation with them.
[13:40–13:42] I'm like there's only so much times you can say.
[13:42–13:44] You can't waste your breath over and over.
[13:44–13:46] So have that conversation again and be like look.
[13:46–13:49] I'm afraid to this moment because he seemed like a really strong girl.
[13:49–13:50] That's my girl.
[13:50–13:51] Like you're afraid to this by yourself.
[13:51–13:54] You're not like oh I hope you change like you're the design.
[13:54–13:57] Will I run what like maybe have that again and say to him.
[13:57–14:00] I look like I'm afraid to this by myself if you're not going to step up and.
[14:00–14:01] Yeah.
[14:01–14:02] Make me feel like.
[14:02–14:03] Yeah.
[14:03–14:04] I'm carrying your child like and.
[14:04–14:05] He should know that from past.
[14:05–14:08] He has two kids like what what what woman needs.
[14:08–14:09] Yeah.
[14:09–14:11] And it's not his first round like that.
[14:11–14:15] He wouldn't realize so I think saying to him that look if you're not going to step up.
[14:15–14:17] I'll be stepping down.
[14:17–14:18] Yeah bitch.
[14:18–14:19] Oh I like that.
[14:19–14:21] I have this little peanut helmet drink baby.
[14:21–14:22] Yeah.
[14:22–14:23] And sleigh.
[14:23–14:24] Oh.
[14:24–14:26] I think I've got hard to look right now at the fuck.
[14:26–14:28] Like and a little boom.
[14:28–14:30] I'm going to be a slab kebab.
[14:30–14:32] I got to look that's okay.
[14:32–14:33] So cute.
[14:34–14:35] Okay, onto some dilemmas.
[14:35–14:38] So these dilemmas are sent into our email address which is home.
[14:38–14:40] I drink a go like now calm.
[14:40–14:44] And if you have any worries or troubles or dilemmas you can send them in there.
[14:44–14:45] The first one is.
[14:45–14:46] And hi Charlene.
[14:46–14:47] Oh hi Ellie.
[14:47–14:48] Charlene.
[14:48–14:49] I feel like I never got away.
[14:49–14:50] I'm looking at the fire looking better.
[14:50–14:51] Ellie and Charlene.
[14:51–14:52] I know.
[14:52–14:53] I feel like I'm supposed to help.
[14:53–14:54] I feel like I'm going to.
[14:54–14:55] Yeah.
[14:55–14:56] I got to.
[14:56–14:57] I think I know my.
[14:57–14:58] I'm not going to.
[14:58–14:59] I'm not going to.
[14:59–15:00] I'm going to.
[15:00–15:01] I'm going to.
[15:01–15:02] I'm going to.
[15:02–15:03] An.
[15:03–15:04] And we're.
[15:04–15:05] I don't.
[15:05–15:06] I.
[15:06–15:07] I don't.
[15:07–15:09] I.
[15:09–15:10] I don't.
[15:10–15:11] I don't.
[15:11–15:12] But it's also an order of.
[15:12–15:13] I'd say.
[15:13–15:14] Yeah.
[15:14–15:15] He.
[15:15–15:16] Yeah.
[15:16–15:17] Yeah.
[15:17–15:18] Anyway.
[15:18–15:19] Anyway, have you.
[15:19–15:20] Hello Ellie and Sir Leon.
[15:20–15:23] Just wanted to say I've started listening to the pod a little while ago and I'm obsessed with it.
[15:23–15:24] This sending.
[15:24–15:26] This sending is a little different to the rest.
[15:26–15:27] Ooh.
[15:27–15:28] I mean you and.
[15:28–15:30] You're looking to get into social media and it's with something I really wanted to do.
[15:30–15:35] do. From a small town, everyone knows everyone and worried what people might think of me trying
[15:35–15:39] to do a social media and worried about me being fun of. So I'm asking you girls, you've
[15:39–15:43] got any advice to me as I'm sure you girls at the same feelings as the start of your careers.
[15:43–15:46] If you're like yoga, I ask this a lot all the time.
[15:47–15:50] I feel like it's all because you started in your jobs. You had an excuse.
[15:50–15:55] Yeah, yeah, yeah. I didn't just randomly start. Whereas one day I was like, hey,
[15:55–15:57] hi guys! I'm your cast. Blokker.
[15:57–16:01] Blokker, Ireland. Yeah. Do you know why maybe they were.
[16:01–16:06] Yeah, but even with that, like, would you have been like, I never talked on camera.
[16:06–16:10] Did you know? I was still wearing. No. I was in camera from that. No, kind of.
[16:10–16:13] Probably, you know, in kind of I was talking, yeah, yeah.
[16:13–16:15] Yeah, because that's what you went. You moved and you felt.
[16:15–16:19] Yeah, it was on my own. And I was like, yeah, no, I don't have to walk down the road and fucking,
[16:19–16:24] yeah, meet cashroom from around the corner and she saw my embarrassing Instagram story.
[16:24–16:30] Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think if it's something you want to do, I'll say to you,
[16:30–16:33] like, don't waste your time thinking about what people think about it.
[16:33–16:38] We could all die tomorrow. Literally, like, run a little rock in the middle of the world.
[16:38–16:42] And no one acts in the nicest way possible. And we've said this plenty of times before.
[16:42–16:44] No one actually cares about you now. Yeah.
[16:44–16:48] And if you live life like that, me and my dad always say that to me for itself.
[16:48–16:51] Yeah. I know. Like if you live life, thinking like, to be honest,
[16:51–16:54] except your family and I don't know if you have a cell or something, but like,
[16:54–16:58] yeah, a few friends. Yeah. No one actually really gives a fuck about what you're doing.
[16:58–17:02] Yeah. Like they might care. Like if you do, and think if everyone's group chats, right,
[17:02–17:07] stories are sent in. So like, sorry, not in terms of like, say if there's a piece of gossip,
[17:07–17:10] right? Yeah, say if I'm going to him and him broke up or him and her or whatever,
[17:10–17:14] you talk about it for one second, it's gone. And you forget about it. You literally forget.
[17:14–17:18] People tell like, do you ever get someone tells you something? And then they're like, uh,
[17:18–17:21] don't tell anyone like, oh, it's already gone. That has been said. Yeah.
[17:21–17:24] I hope I have it. It never comes as we're ahead. Yeah. Ever again. Yeah. No one actually liked
[17:24–17:29] him. I, I'm gonna say it in my first time, but like, I never heard of it. So who cares? So
[17:29–17:33] what? Yeah. And I look, I'm doing what I want to do. Yeah. I'm doing it. It's making me happy.
[17:33–17:37] They're not paying my bills. I'm paying my bills. Yeah. At the end of the day. So. And the,
[17:38–17:43] the proudness that you're going to feel from doing this for yourself will outweigh any sort of,
[17:43–17:47] yeah. Fear and negative. Yeah. Why are you putting cat and poor cat from religiousism?
[17:47–17:52] Of course not. Captain as a name. Captain in the road. If she makes you stop doing what you love,
[17:53–17:57] why? Yeah. Would you stop? If she like, if she to tell you like, yeah, like, she's not paying
[17:57–18:00] your bills. She's going to give me money instead. She's like, yeah.
[18:00–18:01] There's no money for that.
[18:01–18:03] It has no impact on anybody else's life.
[18:03–18:04] What?
[18:04–18:05] Or yours.
[18:05–18:06] Yeah.
[18:06–18:07] It's gonna make you happy.
[18:07–18:08] Not so much.
[18:08–18:09] Even if it's just a happy like don'ts.
[18:09–18:10] Yeah.
[18:10–18:12] I think it's only like...
[18:12–18:14] It's just a small town thing.
[18:14–18:15] Hmm.
[18:15–18:16] People like what she do.
[18:16–18:19] But also, the only people that ever slay it are ones that are jealous
[18:19–18:21] because they wish they could be doing something out with us.
[18:21–18:22] Oh, 100%.
[18:22–18:23] Not necessarily one of your bloggers.
[18:23–18:25] Because they want to get everyone to do that.
[18:25–18:28] But like, they might want to put themselves out there in a different way.
[18:28–18:29] Yeah.
[18:29–18:31] So they feel like threatened by the fact that you can.
[18:31–18:32] It's always...
[18:32–18:34] It never comes from a place if someone just wants to slag it.
[18:34–18:36] It's always deep in them.
[18:36–18:37] Judicy.
[18:37–18:38] Yeah.
[18:38–18:39] For some, some way.
[18:39–18:40] Maybe it's just else if something else.
[18:40–18:41] Maybe you're...
[18:41–18:42] I don't know.
[18:42–18:43] We're really...
[18:43–18:44] You're looking at something.
[18:44–18:45] Yeah.
[18:45–18:46] But they're just gonna slay you for like...
[18:46–18:47] Anything to do.
[18:47–18:48] Yeah.
[18:48–18:50] And they can buy you and watch you to see you get cheers.
[18:50–18:51] Like...
[18:51–18:52] So you be you.
[18:52–18:53] And...
[18:53–18:54] To a flay.
[18:54–18:55] Yep.
[18:56–18:57] The next one we have then is Hyper.
[18:57–18:59] It's just one say absolutely loved the pod.
[18:59–19:00] It would be lost out.
[19:00–19:02] It really gets me through my courage or any college every week.
[19:02–19:03] Yeah.
[19:03–19:08] So my dilemma is I'm moving away for the summer and leaving my boyfriend, family, and friends behind.
[19:08–19:11] I feel this is such an exciting opportunity for me to have.
[19:11–19:14] And I should be buzzing but yet I can't help but you're red leaving.
[19:14–19:16] And I feel so anxious about it all.
[19:16–19:17] I'm moving to Canada.
[19:17–19:18] So it's not as...
[19:18–19:21] Not as if it's easy to come home.
[19:21–19:22] I'm sure when I get there, I'll be fine.
[19:22–19:23] But I'll like...
[19:23–19:24] But it's all I can think about right now.
[19:24–19:27] Is it normal to feel like this before leaving?
[19:27–19:30] And do you have any tips for a long distance relationship?
[19:30–19:32] As I feel like this is what I'm dreading the most.
[19:32–19:33] Thanks, Bert.
[19:33–19:36] Oh, she must be right now because we've just finally sent him to him for a summer.
[19:36–19:38] I can't remember.
[19:38–19:41] Oh, how are you getting on like this?
[19:41–19:43] I don't know.
[19:43–19:44] I don't know.
[19:44–19:45] I don't know J1.
[19:45–19:46] You did, actually.
[19:46–19:47] Yeah.
[19:47–19:48] Yeah.
[19:48–19:49] It's like...
[19:49–19:51] I don't know if I felt anxious about leaving him.
[19:51–19:52] Did you know?
[19:52–19:53] No.
[19:53–19:54] I see, yeah.
[19:54–19:55] No.
[19:55–19:56] Like...
[19:56–19:57] It's so important.
[19:57–19:58] Like it's only three months.
[19:58–20:01] I think the older you get, the more three months feels like nothing.
[20:01–20:02] I feel like we can't...
[20:02–20:03] I'm trying to be...
[20:03–20:04] Yeah.
[20:04–20:05] Like, oh my God.
[20:05–20:06] My whole life.
[20:06–20:07] That feels like a weekend.
[20:07–20:08] It's gonna grow stronger.
[20:08–20:10] Like, it's my used to have distance.
[20:10–20:11] And I always hunt in the back of my head.
[20:11–20:13] I was like, if I can't survive three months without this one,
[20:13–20:15] then clearly I'm not meant to be.
[20:15–20:16] Yeah.
[20:16–20:18] Anyone who actually went to be with it, like you can do three months.
[20:18–20:19] You make it work.
[20:19–20:20] Yeah.
[20:20–20:21] It's Northwater at nine todays.
[20:21–20:22] Nothing.
[20:22–20:23] I can't say look.
[20:23–20:24] Yeah.
[20:24–20:25] Exactly like.
[20:25–20:28] No, honestly, don't like looking back.
[20:28–20:31] I'm so glad you're there and you're never regretting.
[20:31–20:34] Like if you had to say to home just to be your boyfriend, like you would have...
[20:34–20:35] Yeah.
[20:35–20:37] I feel like we always get stuff like this in about like leaving the boy friends,
[20:37–20:39] but wanting to do something for yourself.
[20:39–20:40] Yeah.
[20:40–20:41] You'll all...
[20:41–20:44] You'll end up resenting each other that you didn't take that chance to go and travel.
[20:44–20:45] You have to remember.
[20:45–20:46] You have to remember.
[20:46–20:47] Your life is a little bit of him like Anthony.
[20:47–20:48] Would that be a J1?
[20:48–20:49] She's doing it if it's just for someone.
[20:49–20:51] It's not your work and it's in Canada for like the summer.
[20:51–20:52] It's not a J1.
[20:52–20:53] It's just your work.
[20:53–20:54] It's your work.
[20:54–20:55] Summer work.
[20:55–20:56] Yeah.
[20:56–21:01] It's a my ex on the time actually one night on mine in America.
[21:01–21:04] But I'll see you then.
[21:04–21:07] Yeah, it's someone who wants to feel like that as well.
[21:07–21:09] But you'll have a ball.
[21:09–21:12] After you're there, you'll be like I'm so glad on this.
[21:12–21:16] The anxiousness is obviously going to come because you don't know what it takes.
[21:16–21:18] But yeah, exactly.
[21:18–21:22] But as soon as you're like in that airport or you're on that plane or you get there.
[21:22–21:23] Yeah.
[21:23–21:25] You forget about the anxiousness that you had.
[21:25–21:26] Yeah.
[21:26–21:28] You forget about how you felt so nervous before you went.
[21:28–21:29] Yeah.
[21:29–21:31] You're not going to say you're not going to miss your family and your friends and stuff.
[21:31–21:32] But like...
[21:32–21:33] Yeah.
[21:33–21:35] Imagine doing that when there was no like face time or phone calls or anything.
[21:35–21:36] I know.
[21:36–21:37] That's what you need to communicate.
[21:37–21:38] You need to have time.
[21:38–21:39] Yeah.
[21:39–21:43] Because when you're bow, I always think it means that if one of us wasn't busy in New York,
[21:43–21:46] or Dano, like we would also get a bit like Aggie thought other ones not.
[21:46–21:47] Yeah.
[21:47–21:48] Not replying all the time.
[21:48–21:49] Yeah.
[21:49–21:51] Or if we don't understand because we're both so busy that if I'm busy or if he's busy,
[21:51–21:54] like we don't get like annoyed at each other because that would be really easy to do.
[21:54–22:00] So I think communication they have set times or he's can face time and like just make time for each other.
[22:00–22:01] Even through the distance.
[22:01–22:02] Yeah.
[22:02–22:03] Is it a good one?
[22:03–22:04] The last one is hi girls.
[22:04–22:05] I love the podcast.
[22:05–22:07] I've never written before but every time I listen to the advice he's given out,
[22:07–22:09] I think I need their opinion.
[22:09–22:12] So I mean my boyfriend and together for three years in November.
[22:12–22:15] I'm really close but I feel like lately I'm losing the attraction to him.
[22:15–22:18] He's really handsome but some of the things he goes gives me the IK.
[22:18–22:19] Like I said, I'm really close.
[22:19–22:20] He's my best friend.
[22:20–22:22] I love seeing him and doing things with him.
[22:22–22:25] When I come to having sex, I try and avoid it but I don't think that's fair on him.
[22:25–22:29] Two years ago he took a break from each other for a month to my suggestion because I was feeling like this.
[22:29–22:34] I've never been so sad in my life which just shows him what I do care about him and love having him around me.
[22:34–22:37] Obviously there's an option of breaking up and being friends but I worry he'd hate me.
[22:37–22:40] As he says all the time, this is the last relationship he was in.
[22:41–22:45] This is the last relationship he has in him since he's actually on him and Rogues Her.
[22:45–22:46] Please help.
[22:47–22:51] It's not really fair of him to say that this is my last relationship I've left to me.
[22:51–22:53] Like in like 4th and 6th and 7th.
[22:53–22:54] Yeah, yeah.
[22:54–22:56] I'm going to be dying to know what the...
[22:56–22:59] I'm actually just mad like that you just get with someone and like...
[22:59–23:03] You just spend all time with them and then you just give someone else.
[23:03–23:06] Yeah, I was thinking there's break up and I never think that.
[23:06–23:07] Yeah, no, no.
[23:08–23:09] So weird. Anyway.
[23:11–23:14] I think a month without him wasn't long enough for you.
[23:14–23:16] Obviously you're going to be sad after a month.
[23:16–23:17] Yeah.
[23:17–23:21] That's like no matter how much you love someone or how little you already will, so be sad.
[23:21–23:26] So I think you'll be not being one for months, it doesn't show like oh my god now I definitely am too late.
[23:26–23:29] We couldn't even be broken up like it was 30 days.
[23:29–23:30] Yeah.
[23:30–23:36] I think that once the sex thing like if you're avoiding having sex, that says a lot.
[23:36–23:37] That is...
[23:37–23:38] We've all been there lately.
[23:38–23:42] Alarm bells are going off saying like I don't think you really like him.
[23:42–23:43] No.
[23:43–23:45] What I think you've been...
[23:46–23:50] I think you're listening to him too much and him saying like this is his last relationship.
[23:50–23:53] Why is he getting to decide that like...
[23:53–23:54] That's what's for...
[23:54–23:55] Yeah, it's kind of...
[23:55–23:56] That's what I'm saying.
[23:56–23:58] And that makes you feel trapped and something...
[23:58–23:59] Yeah, is that what...
[23:59–24:00] Is that's the only reason she's staying there?
[24:00–24:01] Yeah.
[24:01–24:03] Trying to convince herself now that she actually likes more than she does.
[24:03–24:04] Yeah.
[24:04–24:06] Just because he says stuff like that.
[24:06–24:07] Yeah.
[24:07–24:10] And I mean she thinks so they had a 30 day break that...
[24:10–24:13] Oh well now we're obviously meant to be because I couldn't even do 30 days without him.
[24:13–24:19] But like in the long run like it probably would have took you a little bit more time to feel a little bit better, but you didn't give yourself a chance.
[24:19–24:21] You just sort of tried back in when you were still really sad.
[24:21–24:22] When you were sad you were like...
[24:22–24:24] Yeah, of course it's sad after you guys.
[24:24–24:25] And you're tall he'd fix this.
[24:25–24:27] So that kind of tells you that...
[24:27–24:28] Yeah.
[24:28–24:30] Well you're tall it tells you that he's...
[24:30–24:31] Doesn't your meant to be fixed?
[24:31–24:33] Yeah, I think so when there's nothing that he can change.
[24:33–24:34] Yeah.
[24:34–24:35] The only...
[24:35–24:37] Like it's how she's attracted to him.
[24:37–24:39] I don't think you're attracted to him, my love.
[24:39–24:41] No.
[24:41–24:42] I think you've got...
[24:42–24:44] I think you're gone too far.
[24:44–24:46] I think you've gotten the ache and one's the ache is there the ache today.
[24:46–24:47] Yeah.
[24:47–24:50] And now you feel pressured to say it and because you've already broken up once and you're like, oh I can't do it again.
[24:50–24:51] And also he's...
[24:51–24:52] Yeah, of course.
[24:52–24:56] And also he's saying, oh this is the last Rachel I've given me, like which also isn't fair.
[24:56–24:57] That's all.
[24:57–25:01] So you break up with him and he might still think that he's in a relationship which is that what you say.
[25:01–25:03] Yeah, like what?
[25:03–25:05] And you're never leaving.
[25:05–25:07] Oh, I think you know what to do.
[25:07–25:10] Yeah, you're just wanting someone else to do a challenge.
[25:10–25:11] Yeah.
[25:11–25:13] If I could do it for you I would.
[25:13–25:14] Yeah.
[25:14–25:16] I would come and tell you wife and sorry, you shouldn't want to be with anyone.
[25:16–25:17] Bye.
[25:17–25:18] But like you can have...
[25:18–25:21] Like when you're with someone so long, they obviously be your best friend.
[25:21–25:24] But like you can't just say with someone cause they're your mate.
[25:24–25:25] I think that's it.
[25:25–25:27] You don't have sex and that's your teammate, like.
[25:27–25:28] Is that...
[25:28–25:29] Is that the sleepover club?
[25:29–25:30] Yeah, literally.
[25:30–25:31] Flatonic.
[25:31–25:32] Yeah, giving flatonic.
[25:32–25:36] That's it, like hanging around with each other because you're comfortable with each other but like, yeah.
[25:36–25:38] There's no sex or no...
[25:38–25:40] No, no that there, you're not attracted to him.
[25:40–25:41] Yeah.
[25:41–25:42] You're not attracted to someone you can't.
[25:42–25:45] And then he gave you felt like there's two years ago, which he felt exactly the same way.
[25:45–25:47] And you feel like, yeah, like that's just...
[25:47–25:48] That's the signs are there.
[25:48–25:49] Yeah.
[25:49–25:50] It's giving...
[25:50–25:51] Break up.
[25:51–25:52] Things are...
[25:52–25:53] Love you.
[25:53–25:54] Love you.
[25:54–25:55] Love you need any other more advice.
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