EXTRA JUICE: "New fling within weeks of breaking up - did he cheat?" #4 — Hold My Drink

[00:00–00:04] Hold my drink with Charlene and Ellie, a go-laid original.
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[00:28–00:35] exclusively animal neck. So today I actually have a special gift, it's Kaylee Cashel, and she's
[00:35–00:42] going to help me with the teeth from the salt that you've all sent in helping give me advice, basically.
[00:42–00:46] And you said you're ruthless, so I'm excited. I'm a little bit scared. I feel like I'm the like
[00:46–00:50] bad bitch. But wait, that's what we need. Okay, as long as people don't hurt me for it.
[00:50–00:55] I'm just like, I'm just like, oh, just do this and pry it out, but you need to like, no, yeah, don't try that.
[00:55–01:00] Don't make it. And people sometimes like DM me or like, see me person and like, oh my god, like,
[01:00–01:04] I took your advice or I didn't take the advice and this happened and all and they're like, I wish it
[01:04–01:10] that happened. Then it's not like the best thing ever. It's the best, it's so nice. It's so like
[01:10–01:15] rewarded, of course. Yeah, I think that's one of the, I would say that definitely is. I would love
[01:15–01:19] the life has been able to help people. I think there's, there's nothing greater than that, right? Yeah,
[01:19–01:24] I was told by a slightly further, you know, to do something that's unhealthy. I love it.
[01:24–01:29] So maybe it is, you can invite them to podcast for, no, it sounds nice. There was a girl, she actually
[01:29–01:34] said she was, she was looking for a sign from the universe. This is our podcast and we were like,
[01:34–01:39] don't pimp. And then she was like, okay, I'm gonna ask the universe for a sign and she's seen them
[01:39–01:43] in a shop and center with another girl. She was like, I took that as my sign. I was like, yeah,
[01:43–01:47] that's the universe. Hand in the, I'm like, that's not the universe. That's been being a little bit.
[01:47–01:52] Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, he did that himself. That's not the universe. He blessed you.
[01:53–01:57] Yeah. But yeah, every one day we have our little phones episodes. So we're gonna get rid of it.
[01:58–02:04] First one. So I like this guy. I work with a lot and couple of hours, but he has a had a GF.
[02:04–02:09] Then they break up and he slides in one night when we were both out. We ended up me in unkissed.
[02:10–02:14] But no messages are ending after. Didn't see him for over a month in work. When I eventually did,
[02:14–02:18] it was completely normal, like a little bit awkward. It's when I'm once down, I'm still mad,
[02:18–02:22] he crushed on him. Should I just tell him and me, oh, I'm afraid of rejection.
[02:23–02:27] Oh, wow. Okay, what is obviously into you if something happened already then? So,
[02:27–02:32] do you think he's back with the GF? He could be. He could be. That's naked. That gives me back with the GF
[02:32–02:39] I could be. Yeah. Or else was she just like a rebind? Yeah. And he wants a single time and just
[02:39–02:43] want to start and thing with someone. Especially if you really like some though, like if you're going
[02:43–02:47] into this where you're like, I really like him, but he's going in being like, I just broke up with
[02:47–02:51] my girlfriend. I just want a little bit of something. Yeah. He's lit into her.
[02:52–02:54] Sorry. Oh my god. Not me.
[02:59–03:06] We can either confirm nor deny that. Maybe he also did. But yeah, I don't know.
[03:08–03:14] I think if it was me, I would just like message him. I probably would say. I probably
[03:14–03:18] slag him a bit. I feel like that's always a great way of doing it with boys. That's the way I would
[03:18–03:22] do it properly as like slag them, being like, I'm having a hair and premiere one or do something
[03:22–03:28] that would be good. Yeah. I wouldn't be like all too crazy on this right? I would be like, I
[03:28–03:32] haven't heard it until from you. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No. I was not tired. Yeah. I would always say
[03:32–03:37] to go more so for like the jokie kind of slag and I'm making it out as if like, are you big
[03:37–03:42] offer pieces? Shite? Like what you think? Yeah. Or hate strangers? Yeah. Just something to be like
[03:43–03:47] because to be honest, I think it's I just wouldn't, I just couldn't be wet around. No.
[03:47–03:52] No. No. I can't. I'd rather just say something and be like, right, at least I said it. Yeah.
[03:52–03:57] I'm not afraid of the rejection. And now you know, so it's either you can like go find somebody
[03:57–04:01] else or get over this guy or else you just can go for it. Yeah. But yeah, I definitely think he's
[04:01–04:05] probably, if he's only have to break it up with the girlfriend that I say he's back with her.
[04:06–04:11] Either that or yeah, he wants single time. Yeah. But also like he's obviously didn't, don't
[04:11–04:15] we pray to rejection because he doesn't, he kissed you. So he's not like, he's not like he rejected
[04:15–04:18] everything. Well, maybe he just doesn't want anything more than that. And you know, it's put turning
[04:18–04:25] into that. But also it's like, it's not rejection. It's redirection. Okay. It's isn't it better
[04:25–04:29] knowing that you're not going to waste all your time on this man. Yeah. That's true. Like we
[04:29–04:34] definitely cannot waste time on men. So just get them, let us know and let it go. Life too short
[04:34–04:40] for men. Exactly. To be waste on anyone's time. Very true. So I think I don't think tell them as in
[04:41–04:46] hey, are you like here? No. Tell them in a sort of way. Yeah. Give them a hint that you do like.
[04:47–04:52] And then move on maybe if he doesn't. Yeah. Yeah. I feel the same. But that.
[04:53–04:57] So next one broke up my long-term boyfriend and I'm so much happier without him. I now feel like
[04:57–05:02] he's watching my every move and Georgian who I'm with and what I'm doing, etc. Everything I've
[05:02–05:05] done has been with his feelings of mine. But I'm cautious of his mental health. But I really want
[05:05–05:11] to block him and his mates. But I feel awful doing it. Health please. Yes. It'll be so much.
[05:11–05:15] We lost the podcast every week. It helped me through my break up so much and taught me how to
[05:15–05:24] shoot my shot. So nice. Love you. Love you. Oh God. What do you think? I think I would just
[05:24–05:27] I would just message him. Have you ever blocked someone like as in like to be like
[05:28–05:31] so they don't see yourself as in not like a boyfriend or something?
[05:32–05:35] I've been a relationship since I was working years ago. I
[05:35–05:40] have a girlfriend on these things. Yeah. Yeah. I would just say I think
[05:41–05:46] communication is the biggest thing. So if it's your long-term boyfriend and you know
[05:46–05:50] like what you said you're trying to take his feelings into consideration so much, I think
[05:50–05:54] yeah it's best for you to block. Like I think I know from a lot of my friends anyone ever
[05:54–05:57] they're breaking up where people they love to block because it's just you don't you don't get
[05:57–06:01] hurt if you don't see it right? That's true outside of mine. Yeah and I think she's on the
[06:01–06:06] other end of it now. She's been so thoughtful towards him. I don't think there's any harm just
[06:06–06:11] messaging him being like look I'm just I just feel like even if she wants to do it you know what
[06:11–06:17] I said lie. Lie if it means you don't hurt people's feelings just lie and say I feel like I have
[06:17–06:22] to block you because I just I can't I just feel like I can't move on properly. If that's what you'd
[06:22–06:27] feel like it's a good idea. If you don't want to put it on him put it on you. Yeah. It's not you it's me.
[06:27–06:31] Yeah. Just been like I'm finally ready. Yeah. And she's like I'm so much happier right?
[06:31–06:38] Yeah. I think so too. And like that's a shout out to her now she is that she's like being cautious
[06:38–06:41] of him. Yeah. Well there's a lot of people that are not like that in a break up they just do
[06:41–06:48] whatever the fuck they want. Yeah. The X is gone and that's it. Like but I think blocking is a good
[06:48–06:52] thing. I've never blocked someone else. They've only ever blocked me. Yeah. Am I toxic?
[06:52–06:58] Is it amazing? You know what it is? It's your level and your best life. Yeah. They're like this
[06:58–07:05] bitch is over me already. Yeah. I need to I need to block. Maybe. Yeah. But I think yeah. It's just
[07:05–07:09] gonna make you feel like if you're not over thinking what you're posting all the time. Yeah. If it's
[07:09–07:14] just love from the first because it is for herself and that's it. She feels like she's watching he's
[07:14–07:20] watching her every move which isn't weird. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think top fear on her story and all. Yeah.
[07:20–07:25] Yeah. Yeah. God. Yeah. No. Don't like that. I would never say live. I think in this case like. Yeah.
[07:27–07:31] pretend like it's for you. Which it is. Well. It's a little white light. Yeah. Just say that you're like
[07:31–07:37] you're fine. I had to see stuff on his friends and blah blah. There's another one with her.
[07:37–07:42] That's more. So it depends what route you might go. You can go either way but I would just. Yeah. Yeah.
[07:42–07:48] Definitely. Okay. Next one. I've been recent listeners podcast. I'm still catching up. What I
[07:48–07:53] have is a lemma. I went my fellow almost eight years and sex is like a no go a lot lately. I try to
[07:53–07:59] look sexy firm and keep trying to turn them on. I guess it's not working. He just has like no
[07:59–08:03] interest in sex at all. But then when it does happen it's good and like worth the wait but you can count
[08:03–08:08] on one hand. How many times have you had sex in the last year? Wow. Please I need help. I need advice. What
[08:08–08:15] can I do? I know sex is not the end all and be all but it's a huge parapheration. Yeah. That's
[08:15–08:19] a huge parapheration. 100% of course it is. It's like you're feeling intimate with somebody.
[08:19–08:26] Yeah. Your person as well. Okay. This is very interesting though because usually it's the opposite
[08:26–08:31] way around right. Usually it's the girl that I kind of want to sign with. So yeah. So if you
[08:31–08:35] honest I think a big part of it again is just always communication. I think you just need to
[08:35–08:40] communicate what I'm gonna be like. I'm trying this because there's been this thing when you've been
[08:40–08:45] with somebody so long. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. If it's spicy and I know you say you're trying but maybe
[08:45–08:50] there is something that he would like to try or maybe really put it back on him I think. Yeah.
[08:50–08:54] And tell him how you're feeling in this situation because he's gonna push you away like this.
[08:54–08:59] It's not going to end well. Yeah. I feel like I'm too like like I was straight to be like to not say.
[09:00–09:01] What's my own job actually?
[09:01–09:03] Why don't you have a job?
[09:03–09:04] Well like this.
[09:04–09:07] This is first you know this first insight now you're together eight years.
[09:07–09:10] I feel like I've literally like what's got something going on like you know the kind of
[09:10–09:11] way to have that strap.
[09:11–09:17] Just have to be a big sit down like really big chat just say it and come like what's going
[09:17–09:18] on?
[09:18–09:19] What's going on?
[09:19–09:20] Yeah, no I don't agree.
[09:20–09:23] I think it's again it's just communication though it's like yeah.
[09:23–09:24] What in a relationship.
[09:24–09:26] I'm the same as you I would just say something.
[09:26–09:29] I'd say it like that way I could never keep it in like I just have to talk.
[09:29–09:32] Because then it's going to fester and turn into something else and it's like I just
[09:32–09:33] need to get it out.
[09:33–09:36] It'll just boil up and then something happens and like like everything will just come out.
[09:36–09:39] Yeah, it goes first to everything else.
[09:39–09:42] So now obviously the thing is though when you are I feel like in a long term relationship
[09:42–09:45] with that you do have like loads but then you have it when you're in a complete opposite
[09:45–09:49] of a load so you go through periods where you're having sex more than you're not.
[09:49–09:52] And but yeah communication is the biggest thing.
[09:52–09:53] Yeah and spice know.
[09:53–09:54] Mm hmm.
[09:54–09:55] What would you say?
[09:55–09:56] I don't know.
[09:56–09:57] What's the spice know?
[09:57–10:00] Well she's kind of doing like what she said she's doing.
[10:00–10:05] Right look yeah she's putting the laundry she's doing.
[10:05–10:08] It's so she's it's a that must be hard on herself.
[10:08–10:13] Same then it's not hard though she know what like she's going to think that but don't
[10:13–10:17] don't think that's not it's not you know it's a him problem and that's why I say communicate
[10:17–10:18] because he's there's something.
[10:18–10:19] Yeah.
[10:19–10:23] Or do you think there's not you know boys are just boys as well at the same time at the
[10:23–10:27] end of the day boys can be he might not even be thinking like that.
[10:27–10:28] Yeah.
[10:28–10:31] I think in everything's normal or not passing any remarks and then she could say it to
[10:31–10:33] me he could be like oh my god watch yeah.
[10:33–10:34] I can even think of that.
[10:34–10:37] Yeah boys think so different in the world.
[10:37–10:38] I always say that.
[10:38–10:39] All right.
[10:39–10:41] I was like what what do you think about like what are you.
[10:41–10:43] Yeah I was in your head right now.
[10:43–10:44] What do you think?
[10:44–10:45] I do.
[10:45–10:46] I do.
[10:46–10:50] Because I'm like thinking about everything why does the world work oh my god like oh
[10:50–10:52] there's blood and you're like where is it maybe.
[10:52–10:53] Yeah.
[10:53–10:57] Is life real is this is the simulation like I'm thinking about.
[10:57–11:00] And they're just like a monkey with the symbol.
[11:00–11:05] And it's not like that's not to say like someone's a dumb.
[11:05–11:06] No no no.
[11:06–11:09] It's like how simple and how you're life must be.
[11:09–11:10] Yeah to not speak.
[11:10–11:11] Yeah.
[11:11–11:12] Yeah.
[11:12–11:13] Yeah.
[11:13–11:15] That's true or could be like someone just haven't got to hide the sex drive properly
[11:15–11:16] as well.
[11:16–11:17] That could be a two.
[11:17–11:20] But I think that's how it relates to we're always going to end up like if you compare
[11:20–11:24] to the very sharp relationship you're really like downhaste all because it's not you're
[11:24–11:25] just like.
[11:25–11:26] Mm hmm.
[11:26–11:27] Rundy.
[11:27–11:28] Yeah.
[11:28–11:29] What else.
[11:29–11:33] But yeah it's a but also it could be do you know there's so many different factors.
[11:33–11:36] Yeah it could be like mental health it could be like yeah anything do you know there
[11:36–11:39] be something going on in his work emotional inside of his head.
[11:39–11:43] There's so much going on that so again communication.
[11:43–11:44] It's okay.
[11:44–11:45] Yeah.
[11:45–11:47] So my expert will be for not being happy.
[11:47–11:49] Wow which is fair.
[11:50–11:53] I don't know does she mean he's not happy or she because she wasn't happy.
[11:53–11:56] I don't know maybe keep reading it when she says which is fair it was mutual.
[11:56–12:00] Okay it wasn't happy but she well he had a new fling after a few weeks and it was a new
[12:00–12:04] girl which was a friend in exclamation mark.
[12:04–12:06] What are the calls?
[12:06–12:07] quotation marks.
[12:07–12:09] Yeah and they're still together now.
[12:09–12:14] After years of us together do we think he was cheating girls my head says yes but no
[12:14–12:18] but my heart says no to be honest I don't think I'll ever know the truth but a week
[12:18–12:23] or two later it's just a bit much to move on again in quotation mark and then she says
[12:23–12:26] it's now one to one's later I'm so happy and grateful you broke up with me because I'm
[12:26–12:30] a much better version of myself but it's now come back up as a topic and my head wonders
[12:30–12:34] was I too late back at the time over the whole thing or did I do the writing and avoid
[12:34–12:35] drama.
[12:35–12:36] Oh okay.
[12:36–12:42] Well I think like she said she's never going to know unless she just asked him straight
[12:42–12:43] out.
[12:43–12:44] Would you ask?
[12:44–12:47] I don't know see this is the thing that she said she was moved on and she wasn't even
[12:47–12:50] thinking about it and it was brought up in the conversations so is this just someone
[12:50–12:54] putting it in your head now or has it always been at the back for head.
[12:54–12:55] Yeah.
[12:55–12:59] Best run like yeah it's like I don't know I think look at you said you're happier with
[12:59–13:05] I think move on of course you could dwell on the situation you could get annoyed by it.
[13:05–13:08] I'm like do you need closure to be always need closure?
[13:08–13:09] Yeah.
[13:09–13:11] Closure sometimes comes from yourself though.
[13:11–13:12] Yeah.
[13:12–13:15] You had it and then it was kind of opened a little bit up again.
[13:15–13:16] Yeah.
[13:16–13:19] But what are you going to benefit from no one if you did cheer up?
[13:19–13:20] Is that going to make you happier?
[13:20–13:21] No.
[13:21–13:25] Don't even go there just pretend just no.
[13:25–13:28] There's literally there's nothing to the point is that you're happy now.
[13:28–13:29] Yeah.
[13:29–13:30] The man thing.
[13:30–13:31] He's happy.
[13:31–13:34] He's awful whoever but you're living your best life now just focus on you girl.
[13:34–13:41] Do you think she said do we think he was she and I'm just say a week or two later.
[13:41–13:45] She was a friend for something she's a random new girl.
[13:45–13:47] Well, you like her or something.
[13:47–13:48] Yeah.
[13:48–13:53] I don't know do you think you cheated I don't know like.
[13:53–13:56] But this is the thing boys move on quickly and then they're like a miss her.
[13:56–13:57] Yeah.
[13:57–14:00] This is what we always say if it's a sudden breakup.
[14:00–14:01] Yeah.
[14:01–14:05] Guys think it's great at the time they're like I'm thinking yeah.
[14:05–14:07] Take a bit my dick and all this shit.
[14:07–14:08] Yeah.
[14:08–14:13] Girls are upset for us and then they live the best of few months later and then a few
[14:13–14:15] months later is when the boys realize.
[14:15–14:17] Fuck I lost a really good thing.
[14:17–14:20] So I don't know if they always come crawl back.
[14:20–14:21] Yeah.
[14:21–14:24] Everything of her is and I think I've ever had something that's come crawl back.
[14:24–14:27] It's because they realize it's like what they said is when you get happy or when you
[14:27–14:31] focus on yourself and you're living your best life and they could see that they're like.
[14:31–14:32] How is she so happy?
[14:32–14:33] Yeah.
[14:33–14:34] Sorry.
[14:34–14:35] Yeah.
[14:36–14:40] I think like live your best life I wouldn't even wish anywhere minutes thinking about.
[14:40–14:41] Yeah.
[14:41–14:42] Anymore you're happy you're moved on.
[14:42–14:43] Yeah.
[14:43–14:44] Let that be your an art of.
[14:44–14:47] Yeah and put your own happiness first because only on my huge unhappy.
[14:47–14:51] No one that you know and that might be the case but it's probably you might not even
[14:51–14:52] admit it to you.
[14:52–14:53] Yeah.
[14:53–14:54] No point open that kind of where I'm just leave that.
[14:54–14:55] Yeah.
[14:55–14:56] I think so.
[14:56–14:57] Okay.
[14:57–14:58] Well, I'll do one last one.
[14:58–15:02] So me and this boy have recently started talking we've liked each other for nearly
[15:02–15:05] five years but I always had different times.
[15:05–15:08] We recently decided to bite the bullet and get together and take it slow because we
[15:08–15:13] both want this but the night he was out and he got with another girl who doesn't see
[15:13–15:16] what he did was wrong because we're not fishy together but I'm self-stalk right now
[15:16–15:17] because I've liked him for years.
[15:17–15:20] Do I forgive or do I just move on?
[15:20–15:23] By the way, unless you do or you and Ellie use their the only good in my life right now.
[15:23–15:24] Thanks for being there.
[15:24–15:27] I wish she's all the best in life because her.
[15:27–15:28] That's so nice.
[15:28–15:29] Oh, God.
[15:29–15:30] Oh, God.
[15:30–15:32] You know what, though, I don't know.
[15:32–15:34] I went to her role because when I was younger I was with someone.
[15:34–15:39] It was like, that's a semi-serious relationship but we went on a break and I thought like when
[15:39–15:42] you're on a break you could just like the other people at the time.
[15:42–15:44] I think I was like, I don't know, 17 or something.
[15:44–15:46] And I kissed them out and he was like, he asked me.
[15:46–15:47] He was like, did you kiss them out?
[15:47–15:48] I was like, yeah.
[15:48–15:49] And he's like, what the fuck?
[15:49–15:50] And I was like, what's wrong with that?
[15:50–15:51] Is it a brand of break?
[15:51–15:55] I thought I let you talk about a break meant you could just do.
[15:55–15:56] Like what?
[15:56–15:57] Yeah.
[15:57–15:58] Yeah.
[15:58–16:02] But this obviously different because it's not breaking there.
[16:02–16:06] So like whose idea was it's you know, take it slow.
[16:06–16:08] Because that's what I be thinking.
[16:08–16:12] If he's here like, oh, let's take it slow and then he's off because someone else I'm
[16:12–16:14] like, are you just trying to string me along?
[16:14–16:15] Take it so he can get it.
[16:15–16:16] Yeah.
[16:16–16:17] Yeah.
[16:17–16:18] No, but live your best life and have me too.
[16:18–16:20] That's true.
[16:20–16:24] I think it just goes to show straight away that she wants a relationship.
[16:24–16:26] Like, I don't know why you're taking it slow.
[16:26–16:27] You want a relationship.
[16:27–16:28] Do you know that kind of thing?
[16:28–16:29] That's true.
[16:29–16:32] The pleasure of a five year is how much slower can you take?
[16:32–16:33] Exactly.
[16:33–16:35] That is the slowest thing I've ever heard.
[16:35–16:37] If anything, it's it's it's it's realize anyway.
[16:37–16:39] Okay, I definitely want this relationship.
[16:39–16:40] There's nothing else for you to figure out.
[16:40–16:41] You want that now.
[16:41–16:47] It's whether he wants it or not and is willing to give up kissing other people or whatever.
[16:47–16:48] Yeah.
[16:48–16:51] And he I'm not saying what he don't like what he done was wrong.
[16:51–16:52] Is it kind of a red flag?
[16:52–16:57] It is because if you really like somebody, you wouldn't want to hurt them regardless.
[16:57–16:58] So.
[16:58–17:01] Even if you talk with finds time, if you see someone hurt you'd be like, oh my god, I'm sorry.
[17:01–17:02] Yeah.
[17:02–17:03] What he doesn't say.
[17:03–17:06] He's like, doesn't he's like, well, that's kind of like gaslight.
[17:06–17:10] And if obviously if someone likes you and you go off and kiss somebody else, I think someone's
[17:10–17:10] going to be a little bit more hurt.
[17:10–17:12] Yeah.
[17:12–17:14] So I think like her feelings are definitely valid.
[17:14–17:15] Right.
[17:15–17:16] It's yeah.
[17:16–17:17] 100%.
[17:17–17:18] Well, again, it's communicating.
[17:18–17:19] Yeah.
[17:19–17:23] Like did he think that what where they were was that they could go off and do those things?
[17:23–17:24] Yeah.
[17:24–17:26] But again, it's sand that he didn't do something wrong.
[17:26–17:27] I think it's.
[17:27–17:28] And that's there.
[17:28–17:30] Yeah, that shouldn't be like the conversation.
[17:30–17:31] The conversation should be.
[17:31–17:32] Is that right?
[17:32–17:33] Oh my god.
[17:33–17:34] Scared to shred enemy.
[17:34–17:35] That's my wake up alarm.
[17:35–17:37] I don't know why that noise.
[17:37–17:40] It's yeah, send strippers to my body.
[17:40–17:41] I need to get a new alarm.
[17:41–17:42] Like sounds.
[17:42–17:44] Do you know what I need the one?
[17:44–17:45] I need the one.
[17:45–17:48] Where's like birds and you wake up like a Disney princess.
[17:48–17:49] Yep.
[17:49–17:53] See, my fit pick I'm making up sometimes because like it wakes you up when you're in a
[17:53–17:54] light sleep.
[17:54–17:55] Oh, yeah.
[17:55–17:56] It's Matt's.
[17:56–17:57] It will like rude.
[17:57–17:58] Let me sleep.
[17:58–18:00] No, it's got like no, it's like you tell it.
[18:00–18:02] like you're up between this time this time,
[18:02–18:04] whenever I'm in a light sleep in this time gap.
[18:04–18:05] Oh, cool.
[18:05–18:06] And then it'll wake you up when you feel fresh
[18:06–18:07] because you're not like coming up
[18:07–18:08] like a really deep sleep.
[18:08–18:09] Really?
[18:09–18:10] Oh, some real.
[18:10–18:12] Not an ad, but I just love an ad.
[18:12–18:13] No, not.
[18:13–18:15] Um, what do we do though?
[18:15–18:16] What do we do?
[18:16–18:18] Yeah, forgive her, move on.
[18:18–18:19] I think you just think of a conversation
[18:19–18:20] and from that conversation.
[18:20–18:21] You'll know.
[18:21–18:22] You'll know.
[18:22–18:23] I think it would be right.
[18:23–18:24] What are we doing?
[18:24–18:26] Because I clearly thought our situation
[18:26–18:27] was in our situation,
[18:27–18:28] was different than what it is.
[18:28–18:30] So how can we go forward?
[18:30–18:32] Yeah, sometimes when this,
[18:32–18:34] I don't know if it sounds toxic or not,
[18:34–18:35] but like if something bad,
[18:35–18:35] if it's happened sometimes,
[18:35–18:36] it's like,
[18:36–18:38] ends up being a good thing.
[18:38–18:39] Oh, definitely.
[18:39–18:40] It opens up and says like,
[18:40–18:41] yeah, it's good.
[18:41–18:41] What are you doing?
[18:41–18:43] But like,
[18:43–18:45] if this, this could start off being like a really good thing
[18:45–18:46] because he might,
[18:46–18:47] yeah, my half the conversation,
[18:47–18:49] he might be like, oh my god,
[18:49–18:49] you're so right.
[18:49–18:50] I'm so sorry, Nal.
[18:50–18:52] And it could turn into that.
[18:52–18:54] Yeah, it lets you both know where you are
[18:54–18:56] and realize that this whole
[18:56–18:57] taking this little bullshit.
[18:57–18:58] And you have to be like,
[18:58–18:59] right, what's going on?
[18:59–19:00] Yeah.
[19:00–19:01] And like that combination might have started
[19:01–19:02] for another few months.
[19:02–19:03] Yeah.
[19:03–19:06] So maybe this is what he needed for a good bear.
[19:06–19:07] Mm-hmm.
[19:07–19:09] And it might end up being good.
[19:09–19:12] But if he's still being red flaggy then,
[19:12–19:13] venom, show him the door.
[19:13–19:14] Then, in.
[19:14–19:17] So that was it for ex-reduce.
[19:17–19:17] Love that.
[19:17–19:19] Yeah, it's cute.
[19:19–19:20] It's just like a little,
[19:20–19:21] big.
[19:21–19:21] It is.
[19:21–19:23] So we get so many six of the cells in
[19:23–19:25] that we don't get an internal in the main episode.
[19:25–19:29] But, um, yeah, you get the extra boss, extra sauce.
[19:29–19:30] Everyone knows.
[19:30–19:33] It's nice though, because even if you don't send in
[19:33–19:35] something, it's like you might be going through
[19:35–19:36] a similar situation.
[19:36–19:37] What do we send, related?
[19:37–19:39] Yeah, even me when I'm getting ready,
[19:39–19:41] I'm like, oh, I've been training on all the smarts.
[19:41–19:41] Yeah.
[19:41–19:44] So Kayleigh's also on our main episodes.
[19:44–19:46] You are still been in for Ellie.
[19:46–19:48] This week, that'll be our one when,
[19:48–19:49] so we're gonna be talking.
[19:49–19:50] Hello.
[19:50–19:51] You can't get rid of my life.
[19:51–19:52] Hello, yeah.
[19:52–19:54] You want to get a little piece in here.
[19:54–19:55] I'm old, isn't it?
[19:55–19:56] Yeah.
[19:56–19:58] Yeah, so make sure to listen to it for that as well.
[19:58–19:59] On Wednesday.
[19:59–20:01] Well, yeah, that was extra juice.
[20:01–20:02] I love it if yous enjoy it.
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