EXTRA JUICE: "When it comes to having sex, I try and avoid it..." #69
Hold My Drink
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Hold my drink, extra juice with Charlene and Ellie.
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A go-lide original podcast,
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proudly sponsored by pennies.
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Get this season's must-haves in a store near you.
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Welcome to home, my drink, extra juice, which is kind of sponsored by Primarker.
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up to a Charlie Wardrobe, literally anything and everything.
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We know the pennies have it all.
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And all the barbys stuff.
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And all the stuff.
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I got a little fluffy make bug.
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Put on my toilet, you see that?
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Oh, gorge!
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And a little barbys set.
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Same set.
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And then...
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Oh, it got two nice, like, beads bags.
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I think I've seen some here already.
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Like, they're like little beads all over the...
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For holiday? For holiday!
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A bit lower than them as well.
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Like, a big bead shorts.
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True everything in.
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Oh, lovely.
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Did that lie out?
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Carrying out the stuff as well.
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Oh, yeah.
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We need to go into pennies actually.
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Get a few.
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Forward fly.
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You like me to do.
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Oh, we do the truth though.
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So pennies, let your store up and tell you everything you need to channel
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some new day vibes, some sliders dresses,
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colors, new little pieces for summer,
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and of course, students room arranges.
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You can log on to www.primerx.com slash i.e.
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to check out all their summer pieces and see what is in your local store
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with their new stock finder.
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This is our browns episode where we get to answer even more of you to Lemons.
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I see the word obtained.
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It's very nice to see you.
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I think the builders are going to launch.
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Oh, thank God.
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It's wonderful today.
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Yeah.
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This is episode 69.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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Hello.
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So these are the updates and we love getting updates
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and if you ever have an update of any situation for us,
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even if it's like one sentence, like just please love it in.
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And also give us a little background of what the demo was so you can find it easily.
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So in Bones episode 56, we answered this dilemma.
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I'm currently in a relationship with this amazing man.
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We're together for nine months now because he knows much print test treatment day and day
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He has brought me nothing but happiness and adventures and joy to my life and my family
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absolutely adore him.
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But most time ago, I drink and he starts arguing with me.
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This happens on a number of occasions now and all the arguments are him accusing me
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of being CD on my phone when we're out.
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When he's sober next day, he takes it all back and says it's his own experience from
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his previous relationship and does nothing that I'm that type of girl.
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But then we'll go on accusing me again when he's drunk, which then makes you feel like
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I'm doing something wrong or not too enough to make him feel secure in our relationship.
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So I'm starting to second guess myself as a girlfriend.
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Christmas just gone.
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You said enough to encourage fight that's left me rethink and everything.
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I should add also he's very hard childhood and struggle six.
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I'm a racist feelings.
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So I'm setting holds it in and then explodes with drink on him.
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Never physically violent.
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I'm awaiting for growing up to fix mental health or am I starting to hurt my own by helping
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to fix his.
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Here's the update.
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Hey girls, thank you so much for taking the time to remodel
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Emma.
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I was in complete shock when I heard you.
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So just want to let you know that me and my amazing man are still going strong and have
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never been better.
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He's decided not to drink on the head for God ever since New Year's Eve and is
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stuck by it to this day.
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He has changed his mentality around drinking completely.
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He now has a high niggas zero if he's socializing and has no desire of drinking again.
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He says we in soap one night out has given him the opportunity to take a step back and
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see what drink does to people and how messy he can get and he is so glad that he can
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be a social butterfly without the hangover.
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His mindset is so contagious.
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He's so positive to be around and we're smashing our goals together.
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I was so very sick it out with him because I thought it was going to be a vicious cycle
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and I was worried if it was going to work or not being in a relationship with someone
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who doesn't drink.
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I'm so happy I still could out because I get the best burdens of him and we go out together
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and have the best time without the arguments.
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I mean, I could have thought he makes me go for walks or runs on the weekends because
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he's always fresh but I'll take that over to a toxic relationship any day.
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Thank you so much for your advice and I hope this helps girls and boys in similar situations.
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Just go to show you don't need that'll call to be fun.
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Thanks girls, love you.
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That's so cute.
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No, I'm so true.
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I love that.
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I love that.
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I would.
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I mean, you stand up and I was like I never want to drink again that I would not be
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one of the bothers.
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I wish that I'd run around and say I never want to drink again.
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I'm not way.
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Oh, we need to.
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We are too old for this now.
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Yeah.
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I would want even if it was like a red day, I like I wouldn't I'd actually rather
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someone didn't drink any.
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I couldn't do it when I was out every weekend.
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I don't know.
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Turns to fall off and doesn't reply to like I'm half a straight ass.
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My I would.
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I could not.
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Another update then in episode 73 we answered this dilemma.
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I finished with my boyfriend and found a distraction but I told him I wasn't looking
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for a relationship and that was completely fine.
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But now he's getting so bad to give me attention.
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I reply and to me takes ages sometimes and I don't see him too often.
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I'm very straight out and I say it and I say it and he will apologise or he'll acknowledge
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you before I say but nothing changes.
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I don't want a relationship but I want to have someone there.
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I just need attention sometimes.
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I enjoy my own time a lot so most of the time I'm happy out but I'm finding this is
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now starting to bother me the lack of time given and the fact he will say he doesn't want
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to stop seeing me acts like we're together when I do see him but the communication between
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us is a joke.
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Very confusing.
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But girls when I tell you the sex is unreal and I mean unreal I can't leave it go.
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But health if I was one of your friends what would you genuinely tell me to do?
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Throw them in the bin or just keep going.
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Would it make sure my garage stays up?
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I remember that one.
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Yeah I remember last time though.
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So here is the update.
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Birds do I have an update for you?
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Ooh I swear what has happened since I wrote in for your advice is something out of
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East Enders.
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So I had asked for advice on the fella I was seeing but wasn't too serious and he was
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shit it gave me attention and told you and you told me to bin his ass so I did.
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Yes girl.
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And what had happened since then you won't believe.
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Bit of a long one so we prepared but I'll try to not make it too long.
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I started a new job in November come December when we finished for Xmas one of the
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lads I worked for added me on Facebook and tried chatting to me.
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Now I wasn't giving him a briar of him but he didn't give up bless him.
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When back to work in January and we started going for lunch together which then led to
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a date and my god he was obsessed.
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Oh and my god he was obsessed the polar opposite of the last guy.
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At first I was like whoa this is a bit more to pretend I started to like it.
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Fast forward to February and I found out I'm pregnant.
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Oh my god.
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So here's something I never thought would happen to me considering I was told I wouldn't
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be able to have my own baby and that's all I've ever wanted.
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My only dream in life was to be a mommy so after the shock wore off I'm absolutely obsessed
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with having a bump and dressing it up I never want the bump to go ever and I can't wait
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to have my little pinot in my arm.
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I was so more advised I need off you girls.
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So my fellow was married and has two kids already.
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Now I didn't know the ins and outs of that relationship and I never asked him anything
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and the type that is like ignorance is bliss that his past has not got to do with me
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but now I'm wishing I'd ask more questions.
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What's your opinion and no one about your partner's past relationships?
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He had done the usual mail thing tricking into thinking he's perfect, three of them shows
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and can be very selfish immature.
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He also likes to drink now, not over the top alcoholic or anything but every second weekend
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when he could be spending time at me he wants to go to the pub.
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We've never had, we've had the same combos over and over where I do tell him that I'm not
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saying not to drink but to make me a priority every once in a while.
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He's all talk and say yeah I'll change that but doesn't.
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I'm happy majority of the time but being pregnant and getting stressed and obsessed scares
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me a lot and thinking do I run before a baby comes or keep trying.
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But I'm also sick of it being just me trying and it's getting harder and harder.
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I'm really struggling now with the fact that he has two kids, something I never thought
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I'd have a problem with.
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It's harder than you would really think it would be.
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I already suffered with my mental health and have done for years and I had a pregnancy
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or a month to top of that is not a fun time.
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I don't really know what I'm looking for here but an outsider's point of view I guess.
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I found out I'm having my own little princess and another little home I drink baby to add
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to the collection.
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Because I never miss an episode ever.
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Me and my little princess P not love you girls lots.
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Here's my scam picture and once she is born I make sure to send you another update
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of her and look at cute my little bumpers.
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Oh my god.
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We can't see the picture on this because yeah we'll have a look.
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Oh is that holding a slowly way.
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God that took a 360 didn't it?
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That's tiny. Oh my god. You're stunning.
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The boom. Look at your hair. I'm not gonna get her hair in your makeup.
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Oh, I didn't see that. Oh wow.
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Oh my god. I love when I prank people where Maxi dresses.
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I know. I can't do that.
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Like I already have my baby shadow on my head.
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First got a lot of hair.
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Oh my god. You look glowing.
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Glowing. Maybe it's cute.
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That's so cute.
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That's like a really clear sky.
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Is it? Yeah. The outline of it.
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Yeah. Yeah.
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Congratulations.
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That is very cute.
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So is she saying here that she didn't know we had kids before?
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Oh no.
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I think she knew she had kids but she didn't know the ins and outs of everything.
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Yeah. So my fellow was married and had two kids already.
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Now I didn't know the ins and outs of that relationship but I never asked anything.
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So I don't think she knew a lot about the relationship but I think she was like a kid.
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Yeah.
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I like knowing about past relationships because I like knowing a lot of things about the man.
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I was having someone before and they had a kid.
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But I just had to feel and they had a kid and I was like, how do I ask?
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And it was like the first day where I was having someone to get out of the child.
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Yeah. So I was like, do you have a dog?
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A dog.
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And I was like, um, any kid?
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Any kid?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I knew that.
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But I don't know.
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Nothing ends in everything.
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So I feel like you need to know a bit of background about the relationships I could like to know.
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There was something I should know about.
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Yeah.
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I don't need to get a something she found out now that she wishes she knew what was.
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Yeah.
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Something substantial that might impact your relationship then.
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Yeah.
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Something like that you might need to know.
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Yeah.
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I don't want to know what you did every fucking Saturday night like for the years.
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I don't know.
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I was pretty good at the holidays.
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Yeah.
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I was really good at that.
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But we're gonna have to fucking wet and album.
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Yeah.
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The sound is.
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No, it's no.
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Um, I don't know.
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Should she run?
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I don't think so.
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I think it's just a work in process process progress.
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Well, yeah, I think what things happen so quick, you're gonna obviously have a dispute in your head of them because you, you basically got pregnant when you said very hungry on you inside.
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Yeah.
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You were still inside of like the man is perfect.
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He's no flaws.
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He's nothing wrong with him like, but that was never a case.
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So I think I think it's your hormones talking as well being like I think you're just over thinking everything.
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Yeah.
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Yeah, because everything happens so fast.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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You're reminded going to overdrive.
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Yeah.
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Also in the part where he's like, if you're thinking this now, like, do you really want to let yourself be just pointed by him when.
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If the baby's born, if that's how she's thinking he's gonna be.
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I think maybe I'd give him.
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I'd say it one more time about the making her a priority type of thing.
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Yeah.
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And let him know that like your your will is put your full down like you.
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Yeah, because it's you.
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Yeah.
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You've no problem walking away and going to the poor every second weekend.
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Is that what I don't know if that's a pass?
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But like I know when you're pregnant like my sister says like, maybe it's just because you're pregnant everything's worse.
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Well, yeah, because obviously I've annoyed by a lot of people like the poor every second weekend one.
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Like you're I don't know.
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It's not a deal.
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But when you're pregnant like you're overly sensitive.
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Oh, it's like you're out.
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You everything is like we're really fans.
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Yeah.
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Like everything is just the worst thing in the world.
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It's one of the fact that you really can go but like as much of the fact you can't go like he used to go.
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Yeah.
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You kind of feel like you're done by everything.
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Yeah.
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You're gonna be like, fuck sake.
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It's your hormones.
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Yeah.
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But I don't know.
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I think tell them exactly how you feel.
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Give it all more chances.
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Try and stick it out.
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But the opinion of not now I've not known about the past relationships.
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I think you should know to a certain extent.
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But I don't need to ask things that I need to know like.
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Yeah, the need to know basis but like that's what I think.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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I think it's good to know.
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I don't like things being a secret like.
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What's around there?
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I don't know.
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I don't know.
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I don't ask much.
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What's around?
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We're like.
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I don't know.
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I don't know.
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Yeah.
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I'd ask that.
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Or like if I heard something about.
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Yeah.
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Or if I heard something about.
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When you ever loved.
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Yeah.
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If I heard something about them then I got with my like.
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Is that true?
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Yeah.
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What happened there?
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Or didn't that.
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I want to be.
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I want to pretend that I'm the only girl you've ever been with.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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So I started thinking too much about you and.
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Would all your ex and I know.
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Yeah.
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Good night.
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I think I have that conversation with them.
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I'm like there's only so much times you can say.
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You can't waste your breath over and over.
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So have that conversation again and be like look.
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I'm afraid to this moment because he seemed like a really strong girl.
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That's my girl.
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Like you're afraid to this by yourself.
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You're not like oh I hope you change like you're the design.
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Will I run what like maybe have that again and say to him.
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I look like I'm afraid to this by myself if you're not going to step up and.
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Yeah.
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Make me feel like.
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Yeah.
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I'm carrying your child like and.
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He should know that from past.
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He has two kids like what what what woman needs.
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Yeah.
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And it's not his first round like that.
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He wouldn't realize so I think saying to him that look if you're not going to step up.
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I'll be stepping down.
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Yeah bitch.
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Oh I like that.
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I have this little peanut helmet drink baby.
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Yeah.
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And sleigh.
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I think I've got hard to look right now at the fuck.
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Like and a little boom.
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I'm going to be a slab kebab.
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I got to look that's okay.
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So cute.
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Okay, onto some dilemmas.
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So these dilemmas are sent into our email address which is home.
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I drink a go like now calm.
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And if you have any worries or troubles or dilemmas you can send them in there.
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The first one is.
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And hi Charlene.
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Oh hi Ellie.
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Charlene.
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I feel like I never got away.
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I'm looking at the fire looking better.
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Ellie and Charlene.
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I know.
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I feel like I'm supposed to help.
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I feel like I'm going to.
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Yeah.
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I got to.
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I think I know my.
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I'm not going to.
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I'm not going to.
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I'm going to.
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I'm going to.
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I'm going to.
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And we're.
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I don't.
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I don't.
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I don't.
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I don't.
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But it's also an order of.
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I'd say.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Anyway.
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Anyway, have you.
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Hello Ellie and Sir Leon.
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Just wanted to say I've started listening to the pod a little while ago and I'm obsessed with it.
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This sending.
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This sending is a little different to the rest.
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I mean you and.
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You're looking to get into social media and it's with something I really wanted to do.
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do. From a small town, everyone knows everyone and worried what people might think of me trying
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to do a social media and worried about me being fun of. So I'm asking you girls, you've
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got any advice to me as I'm sure you girls at the same feelings as the start of your careers.
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If you're like yoga, I ask this a lot all the time.
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I feel like it's all because you started in your jobs. You had an excuse.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. I didn't just randomly start. Whereas one day I was like, hey,
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hi guys! I'm your cast. Blokker.
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Blokker, Ireland. Yeah. Do you know why maybe they were.
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Yeah, but even with that, like, would you have been like, I never talked on camera.
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Did you know? I was still wearing. No. I was in camera from that. No, kind of.
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Probably, you know, in kind of I was talking, yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, because that's what you went. You moved and you felt.
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Yeah, it was on my own. And I was like, yeah, no, I don't have to walk down the road and fucking,
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yeah, meet cashroom from around the corner and she saw my embarrassing Instagram story.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think if it's something you want to do, I'll say to you,
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like, don't waste your time thinking about what people think about it.
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We could all die tomorrow. Literally, like, run a little rock in the middle of the world.
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And no one acts in the nicest way possible. And we've said this plenty of times before.
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No one actually cares about you now. Yeah.
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And if you live life like that, me and my dad always say that to me for itself.
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Yeah. I know. Like if you live life, thinking like, to be honest,
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except your family and I don't know if you have a cell or something, but like,
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yeah, a few friends. Yeah. No one actually really gives a fuck about what you're doing.
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Yeah. Like they might care. Like if you do, and think if everyone's group chats, right,
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stories are sent in. So like, sorry, not in terms of like, say if there's a piece of gossip,
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right? Yeah, say if I'm going to him and him broke up or him and her or whatever,
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you talk about it for one second, it's gone. And you forget about it. You literally forget.
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People tell like, do you ever get someone tells you something? And then they're like, uh,
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don't tell anyone like, oh, it's already gone. That has been said. Yeah.
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I hope I have it. It never comes as we're ahead. Yeah. Ever again. Yeah. No one actually liked
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him. I, I'm gonna say it in my first time, but like, I never heard of it. So who cares? So
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what? Yeah. And I look, I'm doing what I want to do. Yeah. I'm doing it. It's making me happy.
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They're not paying my bills. I'm paying my bills. Yeah. At the end of the day. So. And the,
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the proudness that you're going to feel from doing this for yourself will outweigh any sort of,
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yeah. Fear and negative. Yeah. Why are you putting cat and poor cat from religiousism?
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Of course not. Captain as a name. Captain in the road. If she makes you stop doing what you love,
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why? Yeah. Would you stop? If she like, if she to tell you like, yeah, like, she's not paying
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your bills. She's going to give me money instead. She's like, yeah.
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There's no money for that.
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It has no impact on anybody else's life.
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What?
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Or yours.
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Yeah.
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It's gonna make you happy.
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Not so much.
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Even if it's just a happy like don'ts.
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Yeah.
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I think it's only like...
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It's just a small town thing.
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Hmm.
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People like what she do.
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But also, the only people that ever slay it are ones that are jealous
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because they wish they could be doing something out with us.
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Oh, 100%.
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Not necessarily one of your bloggers.
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Because they want to get everyone to do that.
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But like, they might want to put themselves out there in a different way.
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Yeah.
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So they feel like threatened by the fact that you can.
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It's always...
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It never comes from a place if someone just wants to slag it.
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It's always deep in them.
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Judicy.
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Yeah.
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For some, some way.
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Maybe it's just else if something else.
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Maybe you're...
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I don't know.
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We're really...
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You're looking at something.
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Yeah.
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But they're just gonna slay you for like...
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Anything to do.
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Yeah.
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And they can buy you and watch you to see you get cheers.
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Like...
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So you be you.
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And...
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To a flay.
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Yep.
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The next one we have then is Hyper.
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It's just one say absolutely loved the pod.
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It would be lost out.
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It really gets me through my courage or any college every week.
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Yeah.
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So my dilemma is I'm moving away for the summer and leaving my boyfriend, family, and friends behind.
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I feel this is such an exciting opportunity for me to have.
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And I should be buzzing but yet I can't help but you're red leaving.
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And I feel so anxious about it all.
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I'm moving to Canada.
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So it's not as...
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Not as if it's easy to come home.
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I'm sure when I get there, I'll be fine.
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But I'll like...
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But it's all I can think about right now.
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Is it normal to feel like this before leaving?
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And do you have any tips for a long distance relationship?
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As I feel like this is what I'm dreading the most.
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Thanks, Bert.
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Oh, she must be right now because we've just finally sent him to him for a summer.
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I can't remember.
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Oh, how are you getting on like this?
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I don't know.
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I don't know.
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I don't know J1.
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You did, actually.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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It's like...
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I don't know if I felt anxious about leaving him.
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Did you know?
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No.
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I see, yeah.
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No.
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Like...
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It's so important.
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Like it's only three months.
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I think the older you get, the more three months feels like nothing.
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I feel like we can't...
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I'm trying to be...
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Yeah.
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Like, oh my God.
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My whole life.
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That feels like a weekend.
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It's gonna grow stronger.
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Like, it's my used to have distance.
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And I always hunt in the back of my head.
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I was like, if I can't survive three months without this one,
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then clearly I'm not meant to be.
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Yeah.
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Anyone who actually went to be with it, like you can do three months.
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You make it work.
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Yeah.
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It's Northwater at nine todays.
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Nothing.
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I can't say look.
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Yeah.
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Exactly like.
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No, honestly, don't like looking back.
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I'm so glad you're there and you're never regretting.
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Like if you had to say to home just to be your boyfriend, like you would have...
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Yeah.
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I feel like we always get stuff like this in about like leaving the boy friends,
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but wanting to do something for yourself.
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Yeah.
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You'll all...
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You'll end up resenting each other that you didn't take that chance to go and travel.
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You have to remember.
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You have to remember.
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Your life is a little bit of him like Anthony.
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Would that be a J1?
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She's doing it if it's just for someone.
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It's not your work and it's in Canada for like the summer.
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It's not a J1.
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It's just your work.
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It's your work.
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Summer work.
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Yeah.
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It's a my ex on the time actually one night on mine in America.
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But I'll see you then.
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Yeah, it's someone who wants to feel like that as well.
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But you'll have a ball.
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After you're there, you'll be like I'm so glad on this.
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The anxiousness is obviously going to come because you don't know what it takes.
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But yeah, exactly.
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But as soon as you're like in that airport or you're on that plane or you get there.
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Yeah.
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You forget about the anxiousness that you had.
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Yeah.
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You forget about how you felt so nervous before you went.
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Yeah.
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You're not going to say you're not going to miss your family and your friends and stuff.
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But like...
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Yeah.
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Imagine doing that when there was no like face time or phone calls or anything.
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I know.
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That's what you need to communicate.
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You need to have time.
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Yeah.
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Because when you're bow, I always think it means that if one of us wasn't busy in New York,
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or Dano, like we would also get a bit like Aggie thought other ones not.
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Yeah.
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Not replying all the time.
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Yeah.
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Or if we don't understand because we're both so busy that if I'm busy or if he's busy,
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like we don't get like annoyed at each other because that would be really easy to do.
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So I think communication they have set times or he's can face time and like just make time for each other.
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Even through the distance.
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Yeah.
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Is it a good one?
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The last one is hi girls.
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I love the podcast.
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I've never written before but every time I listen to the advice he's given out,
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I think I need their opinion.
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So I mean my boyfriend and together for three years in November.
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I'm really close but I feel like lately I'm losing the attraction to him.
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He's really handsome but some of the things he goes gives me the IK.
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Like I said, I'm really close.
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He's my best friend.
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I love seeing him and doing things with him.
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When I come to having sex, I try and avoid it but I don't think that's fair on him.
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Two years ago he took a break from each other for a month to my suggestion because I was feeling like this.
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I've never been so sad in my life which just shows him what I do care about him and love having him around me.
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Obviously there's an option of breaking up and being friends but I worry he'd hate me.
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As he says all the time, this is the last relationship he was in.
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This is the last relationship he has in him since he's actually on him and Rogues Her.
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Please help.
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It's not really fair of him to say that this is my last relationship I've left to me.
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Like in like 4th and 6th and 7th.
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Yeah, yeah.
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I'm going to be dying to know what the...
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I'm actually just mad like that you just get with someone and like...
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You just spend all time with them and then you just give someone else.
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Yeah, I was thinking there's break up and I never think that.
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Yeah, no, no.
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So weird. Anyway.
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I think a month without him wasn't long enough for you.
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Obviously you're going to be sad after a month.
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Yeah.
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That's like no matter how much you love someone or how little you already will, so be sad.
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So I think you'll be not being one for months, it doesn't show like oh my god now I definitely am too late.
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We couldn't even be broken up like it was 30 days.
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Yeah.
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I think that once the sex thing like if you're avoiding having sex, that says a lot.
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That is...
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We've all been there lately.
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Alarm bells are going off saying like I don't think you really like him.
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No.
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What I think you've been...
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I think you're listening to him too much and him saying like this is his last relationship.
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Why is he getting to decide that like...
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That's what's for...
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Yeah, it's kind of...
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That's what I'm saying.
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And that makes you feel trapped and something...
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Yeah, is that what...
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Is that's the only reason she's staying there?
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Yeah.
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Trying to convince herself now that she actually likes more than she does.
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Yeah.
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Just because he says stuff like that.
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Yeah.
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And I mean she thinks so they had a 30 day break that...
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Oh well now we're obviously meant to be because I couldn't even do 30 days without him.
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But like in the long run like it probably would have took you a little bit more time to feel a little bit better, but you didn't give yourself a chance.
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You just sort of tried back in when you were still really sad.
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When you were sad you were like...
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Yeah, of course it's sad after you guys.
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And you're tall he'd fix this.
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So that kind of tells you that...
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Yeah.
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Well you're tall it tells you that he's...
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Doesn't your meant to be fixed?
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Yeah, I think so when there's nothing that he can change.
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Yeah.
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The only...
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Like it's how she's attracted to him.
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I don't think you're attracted to him, my love.
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No.
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I think you've got...
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I think you're gone too far.
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I think you've gotten the ache and one's the ache is there the ache today.
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Yeah.
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And now you feel pressured to say it and because you've already broken up once and you're like, oh I can't do it again.
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And also he's...
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Yeah, of course.
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And also he's saying, oh this is the last Rachel I've given me, like which also isn't fair.
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That's all.
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So you break up with him and he might still think that he's in a relationship which is that what you say.
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Yeah, like what?
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And you're never leaving.
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Oh, I think you know what to do.
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Yeah, you're just wanting someone else to do a challenge.
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Yeah.
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If I could do it for you I would.
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Yeah.
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I would come and tell you wife and sorry, you shouldn't want to be with anyone.
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Bye.
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But like you can have...
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Like when you're with someone so long, they obviously be your best friend.
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But like you can't just say with someone cause they're your mate.
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I think that's it.
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You don't have sex and that's your teammate, like.
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Is that...
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Is that the sleepover club?
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Yeah, literally.
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Flatonic.
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Yeah, giving flatonic.
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That's it, like hanging around with each other because you're comfortable with each other but like, yeah.
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There's no sex or no...
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No, no that there, you're not attracted to him.
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Yeah.
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You're not attracted to someone you can't.
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And then he gave you felt like there's two years ago, which he felt exactly the same way.
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And you feel like, yeah, like that's just...
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That's the signs are there.
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Yeah.
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It's giving...
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Break up.
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Things are...
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Love you.
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Love you.
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Love you need any other more advice.
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You can send your lemons into howmode drink at goleb now.com.
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And that's where all our telamas go in and get sorted through by our magical telama fair really.
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Yeah.
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And you have to tell the howmode drink.
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Exiduse coming every Monday.
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Our main episode is coming out Wednesday.
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Thanks for having me.
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Thank you so much for having me.
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Thanks for having me.
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Love you.
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Make sure to like, bring a subscribe and we'll talk to you on Wednesday.
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Wednesday.
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Love you.
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Bye.
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