EXTRA JUICE: "My best friend got a boyfriend and has made little to no effort with me since then..." #48
Hold My Drink
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Hold my drink, Extrudeuse, with Charlene and Ellie.
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You were?
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And I used a stock checker.
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Cute. Got it. Yeah.
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I did a stock up in there last week.
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It's great. It's very spring vibes.
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Those little cosmetic pots travel with.
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And I sent 1019 Euro later.
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Oh, my God. What else did she get?
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Lodge! That's great.
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It was great.
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But sure, we're always popping in out pennies anyway.
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If you forget to use it, you can just put it in.
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I would have walked by that skirt if I didn't know it was there.
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If it was there.
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Because you don't realise what I knew I was looking for it.
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So it was on your mind.
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Yeah.
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Check out all the spring pieces and see what in your local store
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with their new stock finder.
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This is a brown set episode where we answer even more of your dilemmas.
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I love when I see updates.
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Oh, I'm scared.
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No, I don't know.
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I think there was a weight on updates.
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When I say hi girls, you fucked up my life.
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I think I fucked up someone's life.
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They'd stop listening maybe.
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I'm wouldn't give up.
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Yeah, we just feel like fuck them.
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Okay, the first update is in brown set episode 38 we answered this dilemma.
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So the dilemma is I've been single for five and a half months.
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I was at my ex for almost three years and I came home after night out.
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One night and he ended things for me.
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Whilst I was drunk and said he hadn't loved me for months and I since
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haven't heard one word from him.
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I had a breath so much excitement towards him as I feel the way his moment sister got involved in the breakup.
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He was back on Tinder there after he split and this genuinely broke me.
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Fast forward a couple months, I had started seeing this other boy, seven years older and had a child.
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And even the back of my head, it wouldn't work as his child.
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He had a child a lot and there wasn't really a lot of time made for us.
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I saw passes for a bit and things were going well.
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I had a gut feeling when I was out with my friend and ended up seeing him when another girl.
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I got fronted him and he never even replied to the message which resulted in me blocking him.
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Even though I don't even see him a few months.
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I felt like this has really gended myself confidence.
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I'm getting super excited and going to bed most nights very early and try to sleep early.
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So I'm not up most of night upset and overwhelmed which I feel I'm gonna do.
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A few boys tried to speak into me and I'm trying but I feel terrified that my guard down because of a cum serious with anyone.
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Due to past things that have happened and the possible hair braid that comes along with it.
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Our advice was oh god.
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Give it time and one day you realize that the pain is gone.
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You don't feel hurt or resentment on one day.
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You'll be open to being a certified lover girl again.
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And she said hi girls.
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Thank you so much for reading this out and give me advice.
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Safe to say I was sobbing when you read the video.
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To hear that this was hair wise feeling for so long.
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It was such a sad thing to hear I've come so far since then.
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Oh she obviously sent it a few weeks prior to us reading it out.
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Oh yeah yeah yeah.
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It was so good to hear your advice from an unbiased perspective.
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So thank you thank you thank you for your advice.
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Your brother's self are relatable.
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Fast forward to now I'm a certified lover.
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Wooo!
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Oh my god.
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I like she running.
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Wooo!
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I'm running in girl.
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Ha ha.
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Talked your advice and went into this feeling a bit wary but not with my guard hype.
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As I know I'm my only ruin it from me being anxious by past experiences.
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I've learned so much about myself and still on somewhat of a healing journey.
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Does this ever end?
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My new boyfriend is a wee angel.
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Is so understanding of my social issues and constantly reassures me.
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Feels so nice to get back to feeling happy again after my healing journey obviously.
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As Ellie said we're thriving.
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Your advice was so donated and very appreciated.
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Thank you for this girl.
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So in episode 69 of the main podcast we answered this dilemma.
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Met this girl a year and a half ago, fell in love with her personality and quickly became my best friend.
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She became part of my friendship group, all because of me and even became a holiday's voice.
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Over the summer she'd be closer to one of the girls and I was happy for her until I was almost pushed out.
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She also hates my boyfriend of four years, the only person in my life over the past four years that hasn't liked him.
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She wants to go, why am I reading this out again?
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I don't know, you know what?
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I just keep going.
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She wants to go, she sat me down while I was at work and said she needed a break from me and only me.
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That she didn't want to be around me and doesn't have the energy from me.
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I remember this one.
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This is only recently.
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Is it?
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Yeah.
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Since she's had no contact with me, no text and I invite it all and I'm constantly watching my back and feeling unwanted.
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Went with the group because she just wanted to be around me.
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Oh, is this one of her work?
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No, actually nevermind.
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She completely shattered my confidence and made me feel as though I wasn't enough and that she has taken what she needed from me.
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Okay, new friends and now doesn't need me anymore.
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Coding her off completely, you could have run the risk of losing one of my longest friends who she'd become closer with.
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I do, yeah, yeah.
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Our advice was say to the girls first as you were their friend first.
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If there are a lot of friends to you that understand situation, it should make a case of picking between people.
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Okay.
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And here's the up day.
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Hey words, it was amazing to hear my words and my situation out loud.
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It made me feel like it wasn't in my head and I burst into tears.
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Oh, the fire's out of crime.
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I think that makes me feel like validated like their feelings are.
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Yeah, you know what I mean?
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I mean, I'm present here as here in your advice because I knew I need to stand up to the rest of the girls.
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Since then I spoke to my friends and the one girl I was worried about was pulled away.
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The rest of my friends are now seeing her hard to ask for me and how much I struggled because they are now almost in the same situation.
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Now I'm focused on myself, my friends.
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I decided the group that are so good for me, my most boyfriend.
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23 is not a space for people who aren't adding positive values to our lives.
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And I'm on my journey back to being confident in myself.
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Thank you so much for all your advice, little V. Millions.
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Oh, it's like I was gone.
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Basically, yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Took the trash out, boy.
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She walked the trash out herself.
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Yeah.
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No way.
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What the trash takes itself, yeah.
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Oh, God, we're not calling her trash, but she was me.
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She was horrible.
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Yeah, she wasn't very nice.
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No, no.
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No, no.
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Okay.
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And then the last update that we have for you was from Bowen's episode 41.
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So the dilemma we answered is hi girls.
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I live in a small town and got to a small local gym.
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I work from home and use my lunch hour.
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I remember this to go to the gym.
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Oh, yeah, me too.
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Get to meet your ass today with the host.
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This is where the fella kept talking to me.
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Yeah.
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It was all fine until about three months ago when I randomly got chatting to a guy.
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We seemed.
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We seemed to be at the gym at the same time every day.
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So I started with a simple high her area, but as the day goes on, it ends up being a 15 or 20 minute conversation.
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As my lunch hour, it's wasting so much time and not getting a good workout in as.
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And it's really starting to get to me.
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It's not a flirty conversation.
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So I think he just wants to be friends with at the same time.
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He hasn't added me on any kind of social media.
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I feel like it's gone on for too long now and I don't know how to stop the conversation.
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So we'll consider changing the time I go, but when ex boyfriend goes to the same gym and I'd rather avoid my ex than this other guy.
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As I said, I live in a small town and the other closest gym is about 15 minutes drive away.
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I don't want to be mean to this guy because I get the impression he might be lonely.
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My heart doesn't able.
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So the advice that we gave was say to him that you'll talk to him at the end of the workout.
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That way you have an excuse to leave earlier to get back to work and not stay chatting for 15 to 20 minutes.
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So the update is.
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So ladies before I even got the chance to get your advice things took a turn for the worst family and Instagram and sent me a message saying can we chat here while we're not in the gym.
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But he never sent me a follow request.
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I didn't reply and ended up avoiding the gym for a while.
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I still have to fear running into him after gym or anywhere around the town.
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Anymore advice.
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I know.
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Is this the people please are in me just not knowing how to say no.
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I think it's a very girl thing that we nearly feel bad sometimes when you're not.
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When you don't want someone like that but you shouldn't feel bad.
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I have to imagine a man feeling bad about that.
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Sometimes you actually have to say I don't actually feel more my feelings more important than that man.
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Yeah.
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Put your own feelings forward first.
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Oh god he didn't add your body's sent it message.
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Weird.
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Does he know how to use Instagram?
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Has he got to see you good girl?
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Oh shit yeah.
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Can you see who they follow?
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Oh god.
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Thank you for them update.
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So, I don't know if you'll be back in the gym anytime soon.
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I know, but if he is, I got just even smiling away for something, don't be glad if you don't talk to him.
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No, I'm actually really busy.
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Yeah, yeah.
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Yeah, it's not your job to keep from an entertain for the day.
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And if you don't want to talk, it's a waste of your time in a way.
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Although we did feel bad from who's nice, but we're just too nice.
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You can also feel bad from a distance and be nice, but don't be overly nice.
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Yeah, you're right.
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So all of those dilemmas will have been sent to our email address, which is
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homadrinkacolordown.com.
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They were all updates, and these are dilemmas from this week.
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Okay, so the first dilemma that we have is,
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hi girls, just one star per se, and I adore the two years and have never missed an episode.
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Jesus, for a pleasure.
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And so happy you, so happy you use our hope, the fellas, our lovely girls, and better than the last,
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Ellie, you deserve the world.
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Oh, my fellas, the saying.
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Yeah.
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Surely there's a re-page fella.
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Okay.
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I was in my ex for two years, and we were constantly breaking up the whole time.
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Cheat none his part, and the whole relationship was just a shit show, to be honest.
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But I never saw myself getting over him any time.
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We broke up, and it lasted for a while.
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I was in the absolute terrors, as you can imagine, but I did end up moving on.
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I was getting with his lads since me and my ex ended, I'm not serious at all.
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Just on a night out, not even home, not even home, after together.
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The odd time he would come over to mine, and we'd get together, but never went further than a kiss.
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He told me on a recent night out that he doesn't want a relationship, and neither did I,
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until he said he didn't.
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Now that's been two months since we last got together, we still flirt and everything,
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and I always chat and I see him, but he'll be so dry for a few days, and then flirt in the
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ballaks off me the rest.
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I know I'm really starting to get feelings for him, but I don't want to settle for another lad
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that isn't going to show me, he cares about anything like that, and also the whole,
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he doesn't want a relationship thing.
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I really do not know what to do, because I fear he wants me, but then sometimes I do.
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He so opened the air, what the fuck do I do girls?
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Like the fact that you only want to be with him, because he doesn't want to be with you,
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it's just that's just your ego talk, and I love that.
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I love it so much.
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I find it really exactly.
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Yeah, but it's also just your ego talk and that.
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You're like, well I want to be with him.
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Yeah, you're like, I want to, but now I want to be with him like, why would you not want to be with me?
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Yeah, that's what it is.
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You should want to be with me like, yeah, sort of make him be with you.
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Yeah, yeah, oh god.
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I think you're already telling yourself how much energy has gone into him.
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Yeah, and like, you're not getting the benefits of it.
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No, and like open the air works if you want something casual and you like that thing,
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but like open the air doesn't work when you actually want a solid.
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I fell, yeah, yeah, and you've seen like you do, but
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I just ask him, he's already told you just want to release him.
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Yeah, I think he's giving you all the answers as horrible and like brutally honest as that is.
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She's saying, I feel he wants me.
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Don't assume things like that.
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I know we like to say on the best.
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We love, yeah, they all want to do it.
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Yeah, but like, what's it shown?
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He was actually seem like it.
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A lot more actions we've loved a little more.
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Then you're dilulu.
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Yeah, I think he needs to branch out.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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It's one thing you question, like it's fine if you're just,
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if you're like, oh, that's really annoying, like it's probably just keep going.
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I would have actually sat near when you're like, I really would like to be with him.
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Yeah, if you were just seeing him, if both of you are on the same page,
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it'd be different because you're on two completely different pages.
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Yeah, it's very hard to be on the same page as someone.
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Yeah, oh, sorry, it's hard to be on different pages, but like
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seeing someone exactly.
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Yeah, you need to be on the same page where it's half way much done.
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Because someone's going to end up being serious.
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Yeah.
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And then, even if I don't have to send it then, I feel.
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Yeah, so...
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You put it in the board while you can now.
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Yeah, yeah.
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It might just be one of the drunken things that is together,
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if not Nelson's happens.
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And like, sometimes things they'll can start from when you say, I don't want to race you.
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I think what I'm going to tell them, what do I do?
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You're right.
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I'm an imprellent.
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Yeah, you're my dinner.
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So, like, sometimes that is the case.
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Yeah.
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But I'll also take them for what he's telling you.
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Yeah, actually.
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Might have to get in time.
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I love this.
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Did you put on white runners after putting French runners on the...
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Yeah, I was on the...
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Why was it like this thing?
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Not transferred at all.
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Do you have on your ankles?
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That's not on it?
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Gosh, how you thought it was?
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I did add them up different.
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Very good, yeah.
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Yeah.
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Good way to do that now.
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Um, yeah.
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I don't think you said it yourself.
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You don't want to settle for another lad that isn't going to show you.
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He cares about you.
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So, take your own advice and that's it.
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And just go what you've shown.
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Next one is, hi girls.
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I hope you can give me some advice.
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My best friend got a boyfriend and started the year and has made little
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snow effort since then.
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Anytime she makes an effort to make plans, it's because he's busy at work or not
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around.
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Make me feel like a second option.
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I work a full-time job and I'm...
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I'm parents time in college and I have a boyfriend up my own.
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So it's hard for me just to be able to see her when she decides to be in for her.
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If I tell her I don't feel up to plans, it's always come on and be fun.
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Or if I don't have the money she has and turns up,
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borrow off my mom.
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She can't take no for an answer and just constantly do what suits her.
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I love her so much but I just can't get through to her with this.
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Love the podcast, Chris.
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We've definitely talked with that before that like the honeymoon stage of someone
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getting in a relationship is bound to happen.
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Like,
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you're so excited to have this person in your life and like,
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you want to always be with them and always spend time with them and...
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Yeah, so you can't fall down that half but I do also understand it then from the other half of
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where the girl is coming from.
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Where the friend is coming from.
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Feeling like an option kind of thing.
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Yeah.
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Is this...
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It depends for us, boyfriend.
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No, I'm just saying.
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Got a boyfriend.
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Yeah.
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What would you say?
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I don't know.
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Like, I think the thing of like...
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I don't think she's meaning the bad way is when she's saying,
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come on, let me phone about plans.
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Yeah.
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I'll take no for an answer.
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I don't think she's meaning that like,
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trying to force is probably just does want to see it.
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Yeah.
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But it's also annoying if it's only at her convenience.
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And I...
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I don't think it's worth for the two years.
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Yeah, I think so too.
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Like, it's just...
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I think say that too when she asks me next time,
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like, I can't do this,
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but I have been trying to make plans in the other one of the rounds.
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I can't do things at the drop of a hat like you can.
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Yeah.
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Like, I'm actually really busy.
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And maybe come to some sort of compromise of like,
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right, here's a date we'll do some on this date.
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A date that suits the boat instead of just in the moment
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or on the day,
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vortexing and being like,
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let's do this nail bar money after my arm blabber.
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Because when you're a full-time job and part-time college,
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like,
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NFL, you don't have that time.
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Yeah.
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They just leave.
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So at least if the two years come together
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and plan something for the future,
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it also gives you both something to look forward to as well.
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Yeah.
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I mean, so do I.
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And then no one's let down this point just.
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Because you set a date and then someone bears on that then.
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Then what can you really do?
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Yeah.
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That's almost as old.
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Yeah.
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The last one that we have then is
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well-shurling and Ellie, how are you?
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This question is more for Ellie.
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But just wondering how did you deal with the passing
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over the lovely tailor and how did you agree for her?
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I unfortunately lost my best friend very unexpectedly
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and don't know what to do.
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I'm last-day with her and also really her,
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I've broken any advice or coping ways.
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Much appreciated.
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Thank you.
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That's so soft.
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We didn't lose tailor kind of.
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We kind of knew it was the last few weeks.
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What do I kind of think?
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Yeah.
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A tailor was 12.
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That's really old for a boxer.
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So we kind of knew.
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We knew it was on the way.
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So I think we kind of all mentally prepared
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us that for that first.
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I was away.
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I think I was away.
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My mom is sitting here from Fuse-Renishland.
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I was away and I came back on the Sunday
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and Taylor died on the one day.
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That's a New York.
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Was it New York?
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Yeah.
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I think I came home the day before.
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And yeah, everyone at home was just saying
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it's just not fair for her to be.
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Like we were just keeping her there for us kind of.
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For our own selfish reasons just to say,
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oh, she's still there.
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Like it was just a low cutter.
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And then on the other half, I'm like,
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why did we, why did we want to look at her in that state?
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We didn't want to remember her like that.
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Yeah.
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So we made the call and to bring her for the rest.
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And that was that.
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But we dealt with it in a very different way
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than a lot of other people would.
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And we got probably five days after we got tailor.
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Wow.
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So as soon as Taylor died, I think it was.
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Jack like we were distraught Jesus Christ and don't get me wrong like we'd still I was looking at pictures
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The Taylor on the phone the other night we quave and the toast for sobbing like we'd still cry over yeah
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She's our fourth dog in the house. We have her little ashes in the we got her permission
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And she has her ashes under the tally so when we're watching tally we look at her every night
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but
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I think yeah, I think was my brother Jackie I
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I think he Googles like boxers for sale land like he was like I can't yeah
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So anymore like I've pictures the next I think it was the next day or the next morning of Taylor's bed still in the kitchen and I remember sent it into the family chat being like
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The house is just not the same. Yeah, not the same. So we we got Bobby five days after we got Taylor or at five days after Taylor
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past away we got Bobby and
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But like that was our way of of dealing with it with the loss of Taylor. Yeah people do differently. Yeah
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You hear some people
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Saying and my dad probably even said at the time he was like I could never go through that again my dad
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Yeah, we all were but you hear people saying I could never I'm never getting a dog again because I don't want to deal with losing them again
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Yeah, mm-hmm. That didn't really work
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But our way of dealing with it was kind of like listen we gave Taylor a great life for 12 years
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Why can't we give another dog? Yeah
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Another great life like that and our we were so used to having a dog in the house and
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I think that was it wasn't yeah, we just that was our way of yeah
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Everyone is different. Not even grief with pets but grief with people grief with anything
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Yeah, everyone does with a so different. He's off it means like if it means you think and another dog will help you
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You'll know yourself. It means you think and that another dog will either help you
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Are not or hinder you like you'll you'll know you'll know whether you'll be putting yourself
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backwards or not and if you think you can give another dog a
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Lovely home. I don't see why not like yeah, I like there's so many dogs out there who need so many homes
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And it doesn't replace them but it feels that boy
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Oh, yeah, there'd be nothing in the house and it'd be in dead silence
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Yeah, but it never was never ever to replace Taylor and we knew that but that's why we also said we wanted a boy
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Is a Taylor's girl. Yeah, but we we knew that it wasn't to replace Taylor
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Like nobody or face her. She was the funniest little woman ever but like
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Yeah, that was we just
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New week again another dog a good life
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We knew we wanted a boxer will never know how boxers in the house, but um
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Yeah, that was just kind of
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Hey, we dealt with it. We cried. We looked at pictures. We we have it like mask her. It's not
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Who got that made from
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memory car you crying the hell is crying you are crying on the alarm
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No, yeah, we've pictures of her everywhere. Her head is like a shrine
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Taylor Kelly it really is godlover
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Yeah, just remember the magic can and like I said if you think and another dog will help you
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I would highly recommend it or if you think you just need time to just really
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Greve yeah, it's like don't be afraid to grieve because it is like a person. Oh my so what is it? It's an animal you knew for
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12 years
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Yeah, we had Taylor like I still remember the day Taylor came home and like oh she was our first dog
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We like she was all I knew growing up and the names we had for an all grown up was a bit mad
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I don't know why we'd never call our dogs by their actual names Taylor's name was Taylor
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But we call her boo boo or me me
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Yeah, yeah, yeah
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Or cats is that Bobby is Bobby what we call him Bob a Lena. Yeah, like Tom believe I don't remember my dog getting for down really
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That I don't yeah, I'm glad as in a word way I'm glad I was with her when she like
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Obviously she's in her face like we're on crime. I don't like I'd be able to see because I've heard of people who
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Don't do that who their parents have
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Have brought the dog away got the dog put down while they were in school and they come back from school and the dog just gone
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You know everyone needs to be involved. I don't think you could you should make depending on how young the kids are okay
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Yeah, so I'd rather the child no, yeah, but yeah, no, I'm glad I was there
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I got it over yeah, and she's at home now. I shouldn't tell you what was
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