EXTRA JUICE: "New fling within weeks of breaking up - did he cheat?" #4
Hold My Drink
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Hold my drink with Charlene and Ellie, a go-laid original.
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Welcome to Hama Yenka Charlene and Ellie Extraduce, brought to you by Go-laid, the home of our
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podcast. So this is where you're going to get all your extra goss, extra dilemmas, extra, everything,
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exclusively animal neck. So today I actually have a special gift, it's Kaylee Cashel, and she's
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going to help me with the teeth from the salt that you've all sent in helping give me advice, basically.
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And you said you're ruthless, so I'm excited. I'm a little bit scared. I feel like I'm the like
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bad bitch. But wait, that's what we need. Okay, as long as people don't hurt me for it.
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I'm just like, I'm just like, oh, just do this and pry it out, but you need to like, no, yeah, don't try that.
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Don't make it. And people sometimes like DM me or like, see me person and like, oh my god, like,
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I took your advice or I didn't take the advice and this happened and all and they're like, I wish it
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that happened. Then it's not like the best thing ever. It's the best, it's so nice. It's so like
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rewarded, of course. Yeah, I think that's one of the, I would say that definitely is. I would love
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the life has been able to help people. I think there's, there's nothing greater than that, right? Yeah,
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I was told by a slightly further, you know, to do something that's unhealthy. I love it.
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So maybe it is, you can invite them to podcast for, no, it sounds nice. There was a girl, she actually
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said she was, she was looking for a sign from the universe. This is our podcast and we were like,
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don't pimp. And then she was like, okay, I'm gonna ask the universe for a sign and she's seen them
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in a shop and center with another girl. She was like, I took that as my sign. I was like, yeah,
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that's the universe. Hand in the, I'm like, that's not the universe. That's been being a little bit.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, he did that himself. That's not the universe. He blessed you.
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Yeah. But yeah, every one day we have our little phones episodes. So we're gonna get rid of it.
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First one. So I like this guy. I work with a lot and couple of hours, but he has a had a GF.
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Then they break up and he slides in one night when we were both out. We ended up me in unkissed.
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But no messages are ending after. Didn't see him for over a month in work. When I eventually did,
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it was completely normal, like a little bit awkward. It's when I'm once down, I'm still mad,
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he crushed on him. Should I just tell him and me, oh, I'm afraid of rejection.
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Oh, wow. Okay, what is obviously into you if something happened already then? So,
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do you think he's back with the GF? He could be. He could be. That's naked. That gives me back with the GF
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I could be. Yeah. Or else was she just like a rebind? Yeah. And he wants a single time and just
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want to start and thing with someone. Especially if you really like some though, like if you're going
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into this where you're like, I really like him, but he's going in being like, I just broke up with
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my girlfriend. I just want a little bit of something. Yeah. He's lit into her.
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Sorry. Oh my god. Not me.
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We can either confirm nor deny that. Maybe he also did. But yeah, I don't know.
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I think if it was me, I would just like message him. I probably would say. I probably
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slag him a bit. I feel like that's always a great way of doing it with boys. That's the way I would
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do it properly as like slag them, being like, I'm having a hair and premiere one or do something
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that would be good. Yeah. I wouldn't be like all too crazy on this right? I would be like, I
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haven't heard it until from you. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No. I was not tired. Yeah. I would always say
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to go more so for like the jokie kind of slag and I'm making it out as if like, are you big
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offer pieces? Shite? Like what you think? Yeah. Or hate strangers? Yeah. Just something to be like
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because to be honest, I think it's I just wouldn't, I just couldn't be wet around. No.
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No. No. I can't. I'd rather just say something and be like, right, at least I said it. Yeah.
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I'm not afraid of the rejection. And now you know, so it's either you can like go find somebody
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else or get over this guy or else you just can go for it. Yeah. But yeah, I definitely think he's
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probably, if he's only have to break it up with the girlfriend that I say he's back with her.
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Either that or yeah, he wants single time. Yeah. But also like he's obviously didn't, don't
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we pray to rejection because he doesn't, he kissed you. So he's not like, he's not like he rejected
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everything. Well, maybe he just doesn't want anything more than that. And you know, it's put turning
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into that. But also it's like, it's not rejection. It's redirection. Okay. It's isn't it better
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knowing that you're not going to waste all your time on this man. Yeah. That's true. Like we
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definitely cannot waste time on men. So just get them, let us know and let it go. Life too short
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for men. Exactly. To be waste on anyone's time. Very true. So I think I don't think tell them as in
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hey, are you like here? No. Tell them in a sort of way. Yeah. Give them a hint that you do like.
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And then move on maybe if he doesn't. Yeah. Yeah. I feel the same. But that.
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So next one broke up my long-term boyfriend and I'm so much happier without him. I now feel like
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he's watching my every move and Georgian who I'm with and what I'm doing, etc. Everything I've
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done has been with his feelings of mine. But I'm cautious of his mental health. But I really want
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to block him and his mates. But I feel awful doing it. Health please. Yes. It'll be so much.
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We lost the podcast every week. It helped me through my break up so much and taught me how to
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shoot my shot. So nice. Love you. Love you. Oh God. What do you think? I think I would just
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I would just message him. Have you ever blocked someone like as in like to be like
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so they don't see yourself as in not like a boyfriend or something?
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I've been a relationship since I was working years ago. I
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have a girlfriend on these things. Yeah. Yeah. I would just say I think
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communication is the biggest thing. So if it's your long-term boyfriend and you know
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like what you said you're trying to take his feelings into consideration so much, I think
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yeah it's best for you to block. Like I think I know from a lot of my friends anyone ever
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they're breaking up where people they love to block because it's just you don't you don't get
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hurt if you don't see it right? That's true outside of mine. Yeah and I think she's on the
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other end of it now. She's been so thoughtful towards him. I don't think there's any harm just
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messaging him being like look I'm just I just feel like even if she wants to do it you know what
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I said lie. Lie if it means you don't hurt people's feelings just lie and say I feel like I have
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to block you because I just I can't I just feel like I can't move on properly. If that's what you'd
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feel like it's a good idea. If you don't want to put it on him put it on you. Yeah. It's not you it's me.
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Yeah. Just been like I'm finally ready. Yeah. And she's like I'm so much happier right?
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Yeah. I think so too. And like that's a shout out to her now she is that she's like being cautious
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of him. Yeah. Well there's a lot of people that are not like that in a break up they just do
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whatever the fuck they want. Yeah. The X is gone and that's it. Like but I think blocking is a good
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thing. I've never blocked someone else. They've only ever blocked me. Yeah. Am I toxic?
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Is it amazing? You know what it is? It's your level and your best life. Yeah. They're like this
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bitch is over me already. Yeah. I need to I need to block. Maybe. Yeah. But I think yeah. It's just
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gonna make you feel like if you're not over thinking what you're posting all the time. Yeah. If it's
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just love from the first because it is for herself and that's it. She feels like she's watching he's
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watching her every move which isn't weird. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I think top fear on her story and all. Yeah.
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Yeah. Yeah. God. Yeah. No. Don't like that. I would never say live. I think in this case like. Yeah.
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pretend like it's for you. Which it is. Well. It's a little white light. Yeah. Just say that you're like
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you're fine. I had to see stuff on his friends and blah blah. There's another one with her.
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That's more. So it depends what route you might go. You can go either way but I would just. Yeah. Yeah.
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Definitely. Okay. Next one. I've been recent listeners podcast. I'm still catching up. What I
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have is a lemma. I went my fellow almost eight years and sex is like a no go a lot lately. I try to
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look sexy firm and keep trying to turn them on. I guess it's not working. He just has like no
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interest in sex at all. But then when it does happen it's good and like worth the wait but you can count
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on one hand. How many times have you had sex in the last year? Wow. Please I need help. I need advice. What
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can I do? I know sex is not the end all and be all but it's a huge parapheration. Yeah. That's
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a huge parapheration. 100% of course it is. It's like you're feeling intimate with somebody.
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Yeah. Your person as well. Okay. This is very interesting though because usually it's the opposite
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way around right. Usually it's the girl that I kind of want to sign with. So yeah. So if you
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honest I think a big part of it again is just always communication. I think you just need to
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communicate what I'm gonna be like. I'm trying this because there's been this thing when you've been
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with somebody so long. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. If it's spicy and I know you say you're trying but maybe
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there is something that he would like to try or maybe really put it back on him I think. Yeah.
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And tell him how you're feeling in this situation because he's gonna push you away like this.
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It's not going to end well. Yeah. I feel like I'm too like like I was straight to be like to not say.
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What's my own job actually?
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Why don't you have a job?
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Well like this.
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This is first you know this first insight now you're together eight years.
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I feel like I've literally like what's got something going on like you know the kind of
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way to have that strap.
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Just have to be a big sit down like really big chat just say it and come like what's going
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What's going on?
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Yeah, no I don't agree.
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I think it's again it's just communication though it's like yeah.
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What in a relationship.
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I'm the same as you I would just say something.
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I'd say it like that way I could never keep it in like I just have to talk.
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Because then it's going to fester and turn into something else and it's like I just
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need to get it out.
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It'll just boil up and then something happens and like like everything will just come out.
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Yeah, it goes first to everything else.
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So now obviously the thing is though when you are I feel like in a long term relationship
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with that you do have like loads but then you have it when you're in a complete opposite
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of a load so you go through periods where you're having sex more than you're not.
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And but yeah communication is the biggest thing.
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Yeah and spice know.
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Mm hmm.
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What would you say?
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I don't know.
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What's the spice know?
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Well she's kind of doing like what she said she's doing.
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Right look yeah she's putting the laundry she's doing.
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It's so she's it's a that must be hard on herself.
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Same then it's not hard though she know what like she's going to think that but don't
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don't think that's not it's not you know it's a him problem and that's why I say communicate
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because he's there's something.
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Yeah.
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Or do you think there's not you know boys are just boys as well at the same time at the
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end of the day boys can be he might not even be thinking like that.
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Yeah.
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I think in everything's normal or not passing any remarks and then she could say it to
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me he could be like oh my god watch yeah.
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I can even think of that.
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Yeah boys think so different in the world.
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I always say that.
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All right.
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I was like what what do you think about like what are you.
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Yeah I was in your head right now.
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What do you think?
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I do.
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I do.
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Because I'm like thinking about everything why does the world work oh my god like oh
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there's blood and you're like where is it maybe.
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Yeah.
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Is life real is this is the simulation like I'm thinking about.
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And they're just like a monkey with the symbol.
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And it's not like that's not to say like someone's a dumb.
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No no no.
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It's like how simple and how you're life must be.
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Yeah to not speak.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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That's true or could be like someone just haven't got to hide the sex drive properly
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as well.
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That could be a two.
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But I think that's how it relates to we're always going to end up like if you compare
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to the very sharp relationship you're really like downhaste all because it's not you're
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just like.
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Mm hmm.
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Rundy.
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Yeah.
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What else.
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But yeah it's a but also it could be do you know there's so many different factors.
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Yeah it could be like mental health it could be like yeah anything do you know there
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be something going on in his work emotional inside of his head.
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There's so much going on that so again communication.
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It's okay.
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Yeah.
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So my expert will be for not being happy.
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Wow which is fair.
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I don't know does she mean he's not happy or she because she wasn't happy.
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I don't know maybe keep reading it when she says which is fair it was mutual.
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Okay it wasn't happy but she well he had a new fling after a few weeks and it was a new
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girl which was a friend in exclamation mark.
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What are the calls?
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quotation marks.
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Yeah and they're still together now.
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After years of us together do we think he was cheating girls my head says yes but no
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but my heart says no to be honest I don't think I'll ever know the truth but a week
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or two later it's just a bit much to move on again in quotation mark and then she says
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it's now one to one's later I'm so happy and grateful you broke up with me because I'm
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a much better version of myself but it's now come back up as a topic and my head wonders
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was I too late back at the time over the whole thing or did I do the writing and avoid
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drama.
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Oh okay.
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Well I think like she said she's never going to know unless she just asked him straight
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Would you ask?
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I don't know see this is the thing that she said she was moved on and she wasn't even
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thinking about it and it was brought up in the conversations so is this just someone
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putting it in your head now or has it always been at the back for head.
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Yeah.
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Best run like yeah it's like I don't know I think look at you said you're happier with
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I think move on of course you could dwell on the situation you could get annoyed by it.
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I'm like do you need closure to be always need closure?
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Yeah.
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Closure sometimes comes from yourself though.
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Yeah.
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You had it and then it was kind of opened a little bit up again.
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Yeah.
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But what are you going to benefit from no one if you did cheer up?
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Is that going to make you happier?
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Don't even go there just pretend just no.
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There's literally there's nothing to the point is that you're happy now.
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Yeah.
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The man thing.
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He's happy.
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He's awful whoever but you're living your best life now just focus on you girl.
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Do you think she said do we think he was she and I'm just say a week or two later.
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She was a friend for something she's a random new girl.
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Well, you like her or something.
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Yeah.
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I don't know do you think you cheated I don't know like.
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But this is the thing boys move on quickly and then they're like a miss her.
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Yeah.
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This is what we always say if it's a sudden breakup.
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Yeah.
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Guys think it's great at the time they're like I'm thinking yeah.
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Take a bit my dick and all this shit.
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Yeah.
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Girls are upset for us and then they live the best of few months later and then a few
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months later is when the boys realize.
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Fuck I lost a really good thing.
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So I don't know if they always come crawl back.
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Yeah.
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Everything of her is and I think I've ever had something that's come crawl back.
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It's because they realize it's like what they said is when you get happy or when you
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focus on yourself and you're living your best life and they could see that they're like.
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How is she so happy?
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Yeah.
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Sorry.
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Yeah.
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I think like live your best life I wouldn't even wish anywhere minutes thinking about.
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Yeah.
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Anymore you're happy you're moved on.
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Yeah.
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Let that be your an art of.
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Yeah and put your own happiness first because only on my huge unhappy.
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No one that you know and that might be the case but it's probably you might not even
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admit it to you.
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Yeah.
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No point open that kind of where I'm just leave that.
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Yeah.
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I think so.
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Okay.
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Well, I'll do one last one.
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So me and this boy have recently started talking we've liked each other for nearly
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five years but I always had different times.
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We recently decided to bite the bullet and get together and take it slow because we
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both want this but the night he was out and he got with another girl who doesn't see
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what he did was wrong because we're not fishy together but I'm self-stalk right now
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because I've liked him for years.
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Do I forgive or do I just move on?
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By the way, unless you do or you and Ellie use their the only good in my life right now.
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Thanks for being there.
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I wish she's all the best in life because her.
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That's so nice.
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Oh, God.
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Oh, God.
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You know what, though, I don't know.
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I went to her role because when I was younger I was with someone.
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It was like, that's a semi-serious relationship but we went on a break and I thought like when
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you're on a break you could just like the other people at the time.
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I think I was like, I don't know, 17 or something.
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And I kissed them out and he was like, he asked me.
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He was like, did you kiss them out?
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I was like, yeah.
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And he's like, what the fuck?
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And I was like, what's wrong with that?
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Is it a brand of break?
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I thought I let you talk about a break meant you could just do.
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Like what?
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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But this obviously different because it's not breaking there.
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So like whose idea was it's you know, take it slow.
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Because that's what I be thinking.
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If he's here like, oh, let's take it slow and then he's off because someone else I'm
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like, are you just trying to string me along?
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Take it so he can get it.
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Yeah.
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Yeah.
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No, but live your best life and have me too.
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That's true.
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I think it just goes to show straight away that she wants a relationship.
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Like, I don't know why you're taking it slow.
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You want a relationship.
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Do you know that kind of thing?
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That's true.
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The pleasure of a five year is how much slower can you take?
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Exactly.
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That is the slowest thing I've ever heard.
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If anything, it's it's it's it's realize anyway.
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Okay, I definitely want this relationship.
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There's nothing else for you to figure out.
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You want that now.
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It's whether he wants it or not and is willing to give up kissing other people or whatever.
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Yeah.
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And he I'm not saying what he don't like what he done was wrong.
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Is it kind of a red flag?
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It is because if you really like somebody, you wouldn't want to hurt them regardless.
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So.
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Even if you talk with finds time, if you see someone hurt you'd be like, oh my god, I'm sorry.
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Yeah.
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What he doesn't say.
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He's like, doesn't he's like, well, that's kind of like gaslight.
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And if obviously if someone likes you and you go off and kiss somebody else, I think someone's
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going to be a little bit more hurt.
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Yeah.
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So I think like her feelings are definitely valid.
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Right.
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It's yeah.
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100%.
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Well, again, it's communicating.
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Yeah.
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Like did he think that what where they were was that they could go off and do those things?
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Yeah.
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But again, it's sand that he didn't do something wrong.
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I think it's.
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And that's there.
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Yeah, that shouldn't be like the conversation.
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The conversation should be.
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Is that right?
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Oh my god.
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Scared to shred enemy.
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That's my wake up alarm.
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I don't know why that noise.
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It's yeah, send strippers to my body.
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I need to get a new alarm.
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Like sounds.
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Do you know what I need the one?
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I need the one.
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Where's like birds and you wake up like a Disney princess.
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Yep.
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See, my fit pick I'm making up sometimes because like it wakes you up when you're in a
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light sleep.
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Oh, yeah.
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It's Matt's.
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It will like rude.
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Let me sleep.
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No, it's got like no, it's like you tell it.
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like you're up between this time this time,
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whenever I'm in a light sleep in this time gap.
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Oh, cool.
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And then it'll wake you up when you feel fresh
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because you're not like coming up
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like a really deep sleep.
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Really?
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Oh, some real.
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Not an ad, but I just love an ad.
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No, not.
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Um, what do we do though?
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What do we do?
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Yeah, forgive her, move on.
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I think you just think of a conversation
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and from that conversation.
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You'll know.
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You'll know.
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I think it would be right.
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What are we doing?
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Because I clearly thought our situation
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was in our situation,
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was different than what it is.
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So how can we go forward?
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Yeah, sometimes when this,
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I don't know if it sounds toxic or not,
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but like if something bad,
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if it's happened sometimes,
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it's like,
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ends up being a good thing.
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Oh, definitely.
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It opens up and says like,
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yeah, it's good.
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What are you doing?
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But like,
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if this, this could start off being like a really good thing
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because he might,
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yeah, my half the conversation,
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he might be like, oh my god,
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you're so right.
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I'm so sorry, Nal.
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And it could turn into that.
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Yeah, it lets you both know where you are
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and realize that this whole
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taking this little bullshit.
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And you have to be like,
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right, what's going on?
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Yeah.
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And like that combination might have started
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for another few months.
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Yeah.
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So maybe this is what he needed for a good bear.
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Mm-hmm.
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And it might end up being good.
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But if he's still being red flaggy then,
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venom, show him the door.
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Then, in.
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So that was it for ex-reduce.
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Love that.
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Yeah, it's cute.
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It's just like a little,
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big.
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It is.
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So we get so many six of the cells in
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that we don't get an internal in the main episode.
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But, um, yeah, you get the extra boss, extra sauce.
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Everyone knows.
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It's nice though, because even if you don't send in
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something, it's like you might be going through
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a similar situation.
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What do we send, related?
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Yeah, even me when I'm getting ready,
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I'm like, oh, I've been training on all the smarts.
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Yeah.
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So Kayleigh's also on our main episodes.
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You are still been in for Ellie.
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This week, that'll be our one when,
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so we're gonna be talking.
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Hello.
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You can't get rid of my life.
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Hello, yeah.
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You want to get a little piece in here.
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I'm old, isn't it?
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Yeah.
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Yeah, so make sure to listen to it for that as well.
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On Wednesday.
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Well, yeah, that was extra juice.
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I love it if yous enjoy it.
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